Relationship Advice
Hosted by: Chase Kosterlitz, Produced by: Sarah Kosterlitz
Navigating relationships can be as challenging as it is rewarding. "Relationship Advice," hosted by Chase Kosterlitz and produced by Sarah Kosterlitz, serves as a vital resource for anyone seeking to foster healthier and stronger connections. Every episode of this insightful podcast delves into the dynamics of relationships, offering practical advice and expert opinions to help listeners build and maintain fulfilling partnerships. Whether you're dealing with communication barriers, trust issues, or just looking for ways to deepen your connection, Chase's engaging discussions and Sarah's expert production ensure you have the support you need to succeed in your personal life. Drawing from a rich tapestry of experiences and backed by the knowledge of various relationship experts, the podcast provides valuable perspectives on love, commitment, and the complexities of human interaction. Each episode is thoughtfully crafted to leave you with actionable insights and renewed optimism for your relationship journey. Join Chase and Sarah as they explore the essential elements of successful partnerships, making "Relationship Advice" a must-listen for anyone who values the art of connection.
Episodes
465: Not Having Enough Sex In Your Relationship?
In episode 465, hosts Chase Kosterlitz and Dr. Nazanin Moali explore the challenges and remedies of sexless relationships. They discuss various causes like stress, sexual dysfunction, and hormonal changes that can lead to reduced sexual activity. Emphasizing communication, they offer practical advice on understanding personal and partner's sexual needs and desires. The episode includes strategies such as scheduling sex, addressing sexual dysfunctions with therapy, and fostering emotional and physical connection through non-sexual intimacy.
464: Harnessing The Power Of Acceptance
In this episode, Chase Kosterlitz engages in a deep conversation with Dr. Greg Hammer, a retired Stanford professor and author of "Gain without Pain." Dr. Hammer explores the theme of acceptance—its significance in fostering happiness and how resistance amplifies suffering. He presents the formula: suffering equals pain times resistance, suggesting that increasing acceptance reduces suffering. The discussion delves into personal experiences, particularly Dr. Hammer's poignant recounting of his son's loss, illustrating how acceptance can mitigate deep-seated pain. Additionally, practical strategies and meditation techniques are offered to cultivate acceptance in daily life and relationships, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and respecting boundaries while embracing life’s imperfections.
463: Navigating Relationship Anxiety
In this episode of "Relationship Advice," hosts Chase and Sarah Kosterlitz, alongside guest Chris Ratcliffe, delve into the complexities of anxious attachment styles. Chris, a trauma healer and author, shares his personal and professional insights on the typical patterns seen in individuals with anxious attachment, including trauma, codependency, and abandonment. The conversation illuminates the impact of nervous system dysregulation on relationships and discusses practical strategies for healing. With a blend of personal anecdotes and expert advice, the episode offers a comprehensive guide for those struggling with relationship anxiety, emphasizing self-awareness, self-care, and the importance of diversifying emotional resources.
462: How To Have Better Conversations
In this engaging episode, host Chase Kosterlitz and guest Ashley Kirsner, founder of "Skip the Small Talk," delve into the importance of vulnerability in communication. Ashley shares insights from her experience running events that encourage openness and deeper connections among participants. The conversation centers on overcoming the hesitation to share personal struggles, even with close ones, and the societal challenges, especially for men, in expressing vulnerability. Ashley and Chase discuss practical strategies for enhancing vulnerability within relationships and beyond, using examples from Ashley's research and experiences. They highlight the power of specific conversational tools like open-ended questions, reflections, and validations to make interactions more meaningful and supportive.
461: Healing Our Past To Create More Love Now
In an emotionally charged discussion with host Chase Kosterlitz, Christina Rasmussen explores the deep-seated reasons behind feelings of unworthiness and conflict in relationships. Using her personal counseling experience, Rasmussen explains how invisible losses, often overlooked, shape our survival mindset, impacting our ability to love and be loved. The episode is rich with personal anecdotes and practical advice, aiming to empower listeners to identify and address their own hidden griefs, thus transforming their relationships and self-perceptions.
460: Creating A Values Driven Relationship
In this episode, Chase Kosterlitz and guest Kotor Bloxam delve into the distinction between values and goals, emphasizing a values-driven approach for deeper and more fulfilling relationships. Kotor, a therapist and podcast host, shares insights from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), illustrating how values act like directions in life, guiding us more significantly than the specific destinations that goals represent. They discuss practical ways to identify and communicate personal values, ensuring they align with those of a partner to foster a supportive and understanding relationship environment. This conversation not only highlights the importance of knowing one's values but also adapting them as life changes, offering a dynamic perspective on personal growth and relationship building.
459: Using Polarity To Improve Your Relationship
In this insightful episode of "Relationship Advice," hosts Chase and Sarah Kosterlitz, along with guest Magda K., an intimacy expert and tantra teacher, explore the concept of gender polarity and its impact on relationships. Magda discusses the balance between familiarity, which fosters love, and polarity, which fuels desire, emphasizing the importance of maintaining both to nurture a healthy relationship. The conversation also covers the physiological and energetic differences between genders and how these can be harmonized to enhance relationship dynamics. Through practical advice and personal anecdotes, the episode provides listeners with a deeper understanding of how to harness the power of polarity to improve their relationships.
458: When Expectations Are Not Met
In episode 458 of "Relationship Advice," hosts Chase and Sarah Kosterlitz engage with Talia Bombola, a licensed psychotherapist, to delve into the common issue of partners not meeting each other's expectations. The discussion illuminates the psychological underpinnings of expectation management in relationships, emphasizing the importance of setting realistic expectations and effective communication strategies to bridge the gap between fantasy and reality. Talia uses a blend of psychoanalytic and psychodynamic approaches to explain how childhood experiences influence adult relationships. The episode offers insights into the projection of desires and fears onto partners and the crucial role of acknowledging and adjusting expectations for a healthy relationship dynamic.
457: Hard Relationship Truths You Need To Hear
Hosted by Chase Kosterlitz and produced by Sarah Kosterlitz, "Hard Relationship Truths You Need To Hear" features psychotherapist and sex therapist Todd Baratz. They discuss the myths versus realities of relationships, focusing on the common misconceptions perpetuated by media and cultural narratives. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding and managing expectations within relationships to foster growth and resilience. By examining the complexities of interpersonal dynamics, the episode provides valuable perspectives on the natural evolution of relationships and the inevitable challenges they present.
456: Moving Through Challenges
In "Moving Through Challenges," hosted by Chase Kosterlitz and produced by Sarah Kosterlitz, the conversation delves into spirituality and personal growth with guest Tammy Mastroberte. They discuss interpreting signs from the universe and harnessing spirituality in everyday life. Tammy shares her personal journey following her mother's sudden death, which propelled her into exploring spirituality and teaching others to navigate life's hurdles with ease. The episode focuses on the interconnectedness of spiritual awareness and overcoming life’s obstacles, offering listeners practical tools and thoughtful insights on acceptance, surrender, and shifting mindsets.
453: Improve Your Mental Health, Improve Your Relationship
Hosts Chase and Sarah Kosterlitz, along with Dr. Deborah Campbell, discuss the intricate link between mental health and relationship quality in episode 453. They emphasize the importance of addressing personal issues to foster a healthier, more intimate partnership. The episode serves as a platform to introduce their new course, "Spark My Relationship," designed to enhance couple's emotional and sexual connections through professional psychological strategies. Key topics include communication techniques, the role of mindfulness, and the elimination of harmful habits like undue criticism. The discussion highlights actionable steps couples can take to rejuvenate their relationships, stressing the necessity of hard work and deliberate actions towards improving personal interactions and intimacy.