Neuroscientist Explains How To Rewire The Brain To Manifest Your Goals And Desires With Dr. James Doty

Dhru Purohit
Doctor Doty, today we're diving deep into the art and science of manifestation, including how an understanding of the neuroscience around manifestation can radically change our lives for the better. So I'd love to start there. Can you tell our audience that's listening and watching today what you think will be possible for them and their lives after listening to this interview? I think there are several aspects. One is, unfortunately, so many people give their agency away.

James Doty
And what I mean is that they look outside of themselves for something that will guide them or that there's some cosmic presence out there that's going to intervene. And in fact, the first sentence of the book, as you know, is, the universe doesn't give a about you. And the reason is because the universe has no to give. And the point is that so many of us, and I included, early in my life, I looked for external affirmation, people who would say, well, what you're doing is good, or, that's right, or, geez, you did incredible things. I like you all with the goal of sort of making me feel okay about myself.

And in some ways, this very much relates to that, because the answer is only you have the power to make yourself happy, as Epictetus has said and many other stoics, you may not be able to control your circumstance, but you can control how you react to your circumstance. And in many ways, that's the truth about happiness. And also, of course, how you look at the world. So I'm sure you've been in the situation where you've shared with a loved one a family member, geez, I want this to happen. God, I'm so excited about this.

I think this is a great idea. And then they'll say something like, no, that's stupid. Why would you do that? Or you can't do that. And, you know, obviously, that's very hurtful and for many people, deflating.

But if you have your own internal compass that guides you, and you have a vision of what you want to do, and you do some fairly straightforward practices, but it's not as if it's a one and done. It's a process. I think the other thing people get confused about manifestation is that.

Dhru Purohit
There'S a. Timeline here where it works out exactly the way you want and there's not, and you have to be patient. One of the things I think that causes suffering for a lot of people is attachment, and this is attachment to outcome. When everything is focused on an outcome, if it doesn't manifest or occur the way you wish, you're very disappointed, and you're upset. The reality is, most of the positive things about goals is actually the journey.

James Doty
It's not necessarily the destination. The same is true of manifesting the other reality is that sometimes things don't manifest the way you want, and there are reasons for that, and some of them can be very complex or not straightforward. So the idea is, how do I use the tools I have to maximally increase the likelihood of my intention manifesting? There are no guarantees, but how do you use your brain, if you will, to bring about your intention? And I think that's what this is really about.

But there is nothing in this world that's 100% well, there's a lot there. And we're going to unpack it all. And I'm going to start off with one of the early quotes inside of the book. You mentioned the first one, but there's another quote that's inside the book, and it's a key theme and idea for a lot of people who don't understand how manifestation works. And you are not just a writer, although being a writer is a beautiful thing.

Dhru Purohit
You're explaining this from a neuroscientist perspective. So I want to share the quote here that you shared in the book. He said, you may not realize it or believe it, but you're already manifesting your life. The question is, is it the life you want? So I think the first thing that I'd love to start off with is that many people don't realize it, but they're actually actively manifesting their current life.

Can you explain that? Sure. It's like, if you will, any exercise, when you first start doing it, you're not very good at it, and they. But the thing is, you have to actually practice it with intention, if you will. Meaning that you have to every day put forth effort.

James Doty
And all of us have goals and aspirations, but if we have no understanding or roadmap how to make those reality, then we're lost. So sometimes it'll work, sometimes it won't work, but there's no if. You will organize plan in your head. And I think that's one of the first things you have to do, is to one actually examine your life and see what's worked, what hasn't worked, and also have a vision of the life you want. And that takes effort to do that.

The other thing, which a lot of people don't appreciate, unfortunately, is that who we are today, how we act, how we interact, actually, for many people, is a manifestation of the baggage they carry from childhood. So if you grew up in an environment where, as an example, you were not loved, you did not develop appropriate attachment skills. If people were hypercritical of you, that has an impact on every relationship you have, almost every interaction you have, and that can be self sabotaging. So you also have to understand as part of this process, what are the drivers of your behavior? What are you not seeing or don't understand?

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Your body and brain will thank you. Let's start at the basics. From a neuroscientist perspective, what is manifestation? And even though you touched on it a little bit, give us some of the top misconceptions people have about what. It isn't or what it.

James Doty
Yes, or what it is. I think I understand. So, my definition of manifestation is that you, with intention, utilize tools to access parts of your subconscious, if you will, that will embed your intention and as a result, have an impact on what we call your task, positive networks, and then utilize that information to maximize the potential of whatever that intention is. And what I mean by that is there are certain cognitive networks in your brain, and they work together to essentially make us who we are. But there are certain very specific aspects that are important to work together to maximize your ability to master manifest.

So you have something called the executive control network. You have what's called the salience network. You have the attention network, and then you have the default mode network. And all of those have to work together to allow you with the greatest likelihood to manifest your intention. When you look around today, what do you see are the top and biggest mistakes that people are practicing or not practicing when it comes to approaching this topic of manifestation?

Well, I think that, and I'll use an analogy that I hope makes sense. Neuroscience has learned about a great deal about, as an example, compassion. And if you look at essentially every religion, which has spans thousands of years, there are certain fundamental principles that religions use to impart wisdom, as an example, compassion. And, in fact, that's the basis of essentially every religion. But they're wrapped in a dogma, okay?

And the dogma is associated with a particular culture, okay? But the underlying tenants are actually, neuroscience has proven those to be the case, as an example, with compassion. And so we know that fundamentally, as a species, we evolved to nurture, to care, because we have offspring that don't swim away or run off into the forest. They have to be cared for. So, genetically, we have been endowed with aspects of our DNA which guide us.

As an example, when you care for another, you release oxytocin, which stimulates your pleasure and reward centers, okay? Also, your physiology works at its best. Your heart rate decreases, your pulse decreases, your immune systems boost, it. Cortisol levels, the stress hormone levels are decreased. Well, these are because we evolved to care, because if we didn't care, our offspring would not survive.

And in many ways, religion has understood this through experiential effects and wrapped this around a dogma. And in many ways, this is true of manifesting. If you look back at the history of manifesting in the first and second century AD, there's something called hermeticism. And it was this idea that all is in the mind, which fundamentally is true. And then this then, though, was picked up by what we call the new thought wave.

A guy named Phineas Quimby, if I recall correctly, and he promoted this idea that your mind could do anything. And again, that is true. But then it went to the next level, which went to, what is it? Think and grow rich. And also fundamentally, the secret.

Now, where did these go off track? Well, let's just deal with the most recent one, the secret. The problem with the secret is that it creates a narrative of self interest, of selfishness. I want. And the problem with I want for so many people is, on some level, the reason people I want is because they're insecure about themselves.

And what I mean by that is most people want to make an impression to others that they're okay. Like, as an example for myself, when I was younger, I carried a lot of shame and insecurity. So I thought, well, I'll become a doctor, I'll become a neurosurgeon, I'll become a neuroscientist, I'll become an entrepreneur. And at each one of those levels, I believe that, well, now I'm going to be okay. And all these people are going to look at me and I'm going to feel good about myself.

And it doesn't happen for most people. Because in western capitalist society, there is this narrative that success means money, wealth, position, that then translates into happiness. And, of course, you know as well as I do, there are zillions of people who are unhappy, who have all of these things. And so pushing the narrative that I want actually decreases your ability to manifest. Now, am I saying, well, that's impossible.

It won't happen? No. The fundamental techniques, though, that have developed actually are techniques in many ways that do support this idea of manifesting your intention. But you can actually, if you will, maximize those effects much greater by using different techniques. And one of those is to look at the world through a different lens.

And that lens is through the lens of compassion and being of service to others. Because, as I was saying, modern society pushes a narrative of success that, frankly, leads to emptiness. We are designed to care for people. As I mentioned earlier, when you manifest your intention and actually don't have it self directed, but have it directed to be in service of others, it allows for all the other stuff to happen, but it's more powerful when it's focused on the other. And the other thing that happens is most people have an idea of what they want.

They don't understand what they need. And those are far different things, unfortunately. And by redirecting how you look at the world, then that strengthens that ability to manifest. I'll give you an example really quick. There was a young lady who read my first book, which, as you know, talked about my own challenges growing up, but also the path I took to becoming a doctor and getting into medical school when probably by all rights that should not have happened, at least by traditional metrics.

And a young lady reached out to me and she was from Sri Lanka, an immigrant, and she said, I've applied to med school three times. I was rejected. I read your book. I wanted to just ask you, why did that happen? Can you help me?

And her situation was she wanted to be a doctor, not to be of service, but because she wanted to make her parents happy. And those are completely two different ways to look at the world. If you look at it. I need this to do whatever it is, which is a selfish goal to make her parents happy. And there's nothing wrong with that.

Don't get me wrong versus though looking at through the lens of saying I want to be a doctor because I can help people and be of service, an indirect benefit of that will make my parents happy, but my goal is to be of service. And as a result, with a little coaching, she recently graduated from medical school. And I've had that conversation multiple times with people. And it is a distinction between those two worldviews to set the stage for. The rest of the interview because you touched on it a little bit.

Dhru Purohit
I want to talk about your life growing up and the mentor who you ended up meeting, who not only changed your life, but taught you many of these principles of manifestation. So your life growing up, your early life was a tough life. You grew up in poverty with an alcoholic father. And you shared on our first episode together on this podcast also about your mother and her challenges of suffering from chronic depression. There was a lot of hardship.

There was a lot of instability that was there. And then one day you walked into a magic shop. For real? For real. Like this is a true story and met a woman named Ruth who changed your life and changed your brain.

Tell us about Ruth and what you learned from her so that we can continue and build on that foundation. Yes. And in fact, that is the foundation. Imagine being a twelve year old in the situation you described. And there's something, of course, as you know, and many of your listeners called adverse childhood experiences.

James Doty
And, you know, if you have poverty, if you have alcohol or drug abuse, if you have mental illness, all of these different aspects, when you add the numbers up, if you will, the likelihood for you succeeding in society diminishes in proportion to how many of those you have. And that's the power of these adverse childhood experiences to negatively affect your life. So for me, at the age of twelve, I had a complete sense of hopelessness, despair, a self talk that said I had no future. And I walked into this magic shop and there was this woman, Ruth. And the interesting thing about Ruth, and this is actually, I think, something that's very profound, is this is a person who had a radiant presence and this is a person who was nonjudgmental, accepted you had a smile on her face, did not treat you as if, as an example, I was a child and she was an adult, and what I had to say was meaningless.

She treated me as an equal. All of these things create a situation of psychological safety, which means when you feel safe, you're open, you listen to others. And in fact, if you look at our political discourse, by creating a narrative of fear, people shut down and they don't listen. In this case, though, she made me comfortable and I told her the truth when she asked me some challenging questions. But at the end of it, she said, listen, I'm here for another six weeks.

If you show up every day, I'll teach you something that could change your life. Now, there were four aspects of that. One was I did not realize that my background, because of its chaotic nature and unpredictability, made me very tense because I never knew what was going to happen. I didn't know if my father was going to come in drunk. I didn't know if my mother was going to attempt suicide.

So this creates this constant fear and anxiety, and as a result, your muscles are always tense. So the first thing she taught me was how to relax my body. And again, what you'll see here, these initially are the fundamental precepts of mindfulness practice. But this was before mindfulness was ever talked about. This was before neuroplasticity was talked about.

So she taught me this relaxation technique. And again, I was twelve, and to be frank with you, I thought it was all sort of b's and I was just showing up because I had nothing else to do and she was giving me cookies.

But once I mastered that, then she taught me essentially how to look at the world in a different way and to focus. And this was using in this case, a candle. And it allowed me to attend and to be present. And the thing is, to learn, you have to attend, you have to be present. And so once she taught me that, then she taught me a practice which I called opening the heart, which was one many of us have a negative dialogue going on in our head.

And she made me realize that that is not truth, and that it was within my power to change that narrative to one of self affirmation. And that was very powerful, because when you're hypercritical of yourself, and many of us are more hypercritical of ourselves than we are of anyone else, that influences how you see the world. So once I was kind to myself, it also made me understand that everyone is suffering and made me look at the world through a much gentler, kinder lens, recognizing that fact. But the most important thing relative to our conversation today is she taught me a visualization technique, which at that time was really only used primarily with athletes. And it was this technique of visualizing what you wanted to be.

But the other components of that, and what she had me, frankly, do, was to write my intention down, to read it aloud, to read it to myself silently, and then visualize myself in that position or with it, with what I wanted. Now, here is where the mistake by me was made, and which I think is the mistake with the secret. What did I, as a twelve year old, write down? I wrote down I wanted a Rolex, I wanted a mansion, I wanted to be worth a million dollars, etcetera. And the challenge with that, of course, is that clearly those were my own self interests.

But I didn't know any better or have any self awareness or insight. And I thought, oh, if I get those, I will be whole, I'll be happy, my life will be full. And I did go down that path. I accomplished every one of those things. And I did use these techniques.

The problem was that they were all focused on me. And at the end of completing all of them, I was empty and more unhappy than I had ever been, because I was self focused completely. And even though I became a doctor, which of course, is a good thing, and don't get me wrong, I was always a good doctor, but I became a doctor because it would increase my status and also it would guarantee me a paycheck. But it was about me again when I changed the focus to say, it is about service, it's about caring for others. It made incredible things happen.

As you know, from the first book, I ended up becoming a very successful entrepreneur. I ended up becoming friends with the Dalai Lama founded a center at Stanford. I became the chairman of the Dalai Lama foundation and ended up knowing a lot of the major spiritual and religious leaders around the world. And it's interesting because the trajectory went from rags to riches. And as you know, though, I ended up losing almost $80 million in six weeks, was back to rags again.

And in the face of that, I ended up giving away $30 million, which is another story, to charity. But the reason I did that was I realized I was wrongly focused, and I gave that money away to live up to sort of the principles that Ruth had taught me and that I had missed. And anyway, that made me rich again. But it made me rich in a different way. It made me rich in the sense that I ended up meeting the most extraordinary people in the world.

I ended up doing actions that changed many people's lives. It allowed me to write the first book. It allowed me to write this book. And so by changing that perception from not just me, but outwardly to be of service, really changed everything. You know, you describe this time in your life, and you say, I was never more miserable in my life than when I had everything.

Dhru Purohit
When you were at the peak of what many people would look at as external success, public company, millions of dollars that are present, homes, vehicles, etcetera. The question that I have for you is you described this as being wrongly focused. And I want to bring up and paraphrase a well known Jim Carrey quote. He says that, and again, I'm paraphrasing here. We'll put the right quote inside the show notes.

He says, my hope and dream would be for everybody to be rich and famous so that they know and understand that having riches and being famous doesn't really amount to much and doesn't make you happy. Was this a necessary stage in your evolution and journey in your soul's consciousness? Did you have to go through a little bit of this materialistic external stage for you to become the person you are today? Well, I think that's absolutely correct. I would like to believe everyone doesn't have to go through that.

James Doty
But the nature of who we are oftentimes is that we don't always believe what we hear. But that's definitely a truism. But if you go further into Jim Carrey's story, and I actually use that as an example in my book, he made a comment also that I realized it wasn't about me.

And he attributes that to changing his life, how he looked at the world. And so once he did that, he did get everything he wanted, which was, if you will, to be famous and to impact people's lives in a positive way. But again, as he said, it wasn't about, he realized, the money and all that went with that. Now, I have had people say, well, it's easy for you to say, I want to have the buddy and try and see what happens and see how bad I feel. And I can certainly appreciate that.

And don't get me wrong, listen, I think working hard and having that type of success is fine as long as it's not the only thing you do. And what I mean by that is we're looking at the difference between hedonic and eudamanic happiness. Hedonic happiness is self pleasure. It's maximizing your own pleasure. What we know from a variety of studies is that that's transitory, it's not long lasting.

Eutamanic happiness is more related to purpose and meaning, and it's a different type of happiness, but it's a much longer lasting and deeper type of happiness. And so, yes, hedonic happiness is fine, but you just have to look at it for what it is. And I would also say, you also have to understand that unless you view it for what it is, that will create suffering. And what I mean by that is, listen, I live in a very nice house. I have a Porsche, I've had numerous cars, but if it all goes away tomorrow, I am okay.

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It's thinking you are that thing. It's having a BMW. And thinking, because you have that, this adds to the stature of who you are. When you were at your height and everybody around you was saying, look at this rags to riches story. How are you wrapped up in the identification of the things that you had created?

What was your identity like at that time? Well, as I said, I did believe that. I mean, imagine at one time I had a, I think a six or $8 million house overlooking the ocean. I had a villa in Florence. I had a penthouse on the top of a building in San Francisco.

James Doty
I had a Porsche, Ferrari, a BMW, a Range Rover, and there's another one in there somewhere. Ferrari. Anyway, I had all of these things, and, you know, and I was single at the time, and I was dating sort of the starlet type. Not that there's anything wrong with being a starlet type, but my intention was to go out with attractive women and be seen. And it was, on one level, it was, wow, this is great.

But it was great because all my friends said, wow, you have everything. It wasn't great, though, because I felt I had everything because I was still empty inside. I wasn't fulfilled. I was still insecure. I still needed these things as crutches, right, to give me my identity.

I mean, you know, as well as I see somebody in Ferrari go, wow, man. God, they must have a great. That's cool. And, you know, that's what I was doing. And it wasn't so much necessarily just enjoying the Ferrari.

It was like driving around and being seen in the Ferrari. And on some level, again, it's okay, but you have to see it for what it is. You know, you write about this in your book and also in the new book as well, but ultimately, you went through a pretty stressful bankruptcy. But in going through this, what, again, many people could see as a rock bottom moment in your life, you completely set the foundation for something new. Walk us through that.

Dhru Purohit
During this most painful period of your life, how did it deepen your understanding of not only who you were, but the true meaning of manifestation? Well, again, as you said, for all intents and purposes, I had done everything the secret told me to do, and I was horribly miserable. And after losing almost $80 million, I went back and reflected in my home, which was overlooking the bay in Newport beach. And I did go through a period of great reflection. And I realized the mistake I had made.

James Doty
I had focused on selfish goals, and they had not made me happy. I reached an inflection point where I had to make some decisions. And it was interesting because in my particular case, after losing all that money and being effectively bankrupt and $3 million in the hole, two people became my friends. One was a banker and one was a lawyer. I had borrowed $15 million from the bank based on stock that I had at that time, which you could, and the stock was now worth nothing.

And so the banker came to me and wanted his money and asked me how I was going to give him his money. And my lawyer, of course, I consulted with, and I had to sell essentially everything. Now, the interesting thing was I had made some donations to charity based on stock that I had, and that was my only asset. And my attorney, when I was talking to him, he said, you know, Jim, our junior partner, he actually did not file the paperwork. You don't have to give any of that stock away.

And I thought about that for a while. And after this period of reflection, I said, no, I want it all to go to charity. And so it turned out when the company went public, that ended up being $30 million. And so here I gave away $30 million when I was $3 million in the hole. And people, including my present wife, said I was insane at the time.

But it was the best decision I ever made. And the reason it was was because it liberated me. And what I mean by that is so many people who are poor. Every action you make is not to be poor. And it holds you prisoner because you look through the lens of I have to have this.

I have to have this to feel safe. When you can walk away from it all, then you're liberated. It's not driving you anymore. And you realize it has no meaning. It can't control you.

It can't make you do things you don't want to do. As an example, I'm sure you see, there are people, we're in Santa Monica right now, and I'm staying in West Hollywood. There are people who'll sell their soul either to be famous, to get money, and it has no basis on morals, ethics or anything. It's. They're fixated on money.

And money gets you nothing. In fact, in many cases, it makes you miserable. You know, in this process you write inside of the book, is you reconnected with the original true intention and meaning behind Ruth's advice. Ruth's advice. And part of that in the book, moving forward from here, now that the audience is caught up to date with the story of where you were at the time, is helping people understand how to get what they actually truly need, not necessarily what just shows up on the surface of what they want.

Dhru Purohit
So I'm going to jump around a little bit and we're going to come back to the brain. Talk to us a little bit about that. For people who are trying to clarify how to distinguish between the superficial wants and the deeper, more meaningful goals, is there any exercises, tips, strategies you can share with them that could help prevent them from having to go through their own version of their rock bottom? Sure. Well, again, as you said, use the word clarify one.

James Doty
You also mentioned that this idea we're already manifesting, the first exercise is to sit down in a quiet space and you can get a pen and paper and write it down, but to really think through the trajectory of your life to date, to see what are the mistakes I've made. If I repeated these mistakes, were my actions aligned with who I wanted to be? And for most of us, if we do that, we realize we made many wrong turns, but we also will see patterns that limit us and also understanding that there is no outside magic that's going to fix everything. And this is this idea of taking over your self agency, where you realize that within you there is an incredible power and tools within yourself that actually maximizes your ability to get everything you need, not necessarily everything you want. And for so many, the want, though, is the thing that causes suffering.

It's the one thing that misguides them. As an example, you look at influencers. Why do they want to be famous? Why do they want to appear as if their life is perfect? Because they're coming from a place of scarcity, emptiness and fear.

So by putting on this act that everything is okay. I have everything. Look where I'm at today. Look at my makeup. It's perfect.

Look who I'm with. It's a hollow narrative that doesn't get you anything. Now, the sad part is, as you well know, I mean, you have a number of sad situations where influencers realize the emptiness and they go into deep depressions. And unfortunately, there's a group of people who followed these people who believe the narrative and they go into depression. And some have committed suicide, sadly, because again, when it's self focused, there's nothing there.

It's only through connection, being of service. And the reason I say that, look at, as an example, the blue zones or the work of Robert Waldinger at Harvard with the longevity study. These are, in terms of the blue zones, these are people in different parts of the world who are happy and they live a long time. Now, in regard to the blue zones, people say, well, you know, they eat a plant based diet primarily. They exercise, they don't smoke, they drink a little bit, but all of those things are important.

But the most most important thing is human connection and relating to other people depth of relationships. And this is true also in the longevity study. Why is that important? It emphasizes the power, one of your mind by being able to focus in these areas which actually are good for you in terms of your mental and physical health, and is associated with longevity versus saying, I want, I want, I don't care about anybody else, I don't need you. It's all about me.

That is a empty, you know, dead end place to be. And it's sad because people repeatedly confuse that. And part of it is a narrative that we've created in western society by, again, relating happiness by the acquisition of things. And you're also distinguishing in the book that there's nothing wrong with accumulating some things. But if your entire life's purpose is things, you're going to end up in a place where you're completely unfulfilled.

Dhru Purohit
Is that a correct distinction? Yeah. You know, I'll give you an interesting example. I was in Aspen one time giving a talk and I was invited to a party put on by a very wealthy fellow. And so we pull up to the residence, and, you know, it's one of these $30 to $50 million mega mansions, right?

James Doty
And the guy's a widower, and he's in his eighties. You open the door, there's a painting this, like, super size of him holding a set of skis, a set of keys, a sea skis, like, you know, skiing on the mountain, right? So you walk in, and I end up talking to the guy. And he looks at the watch I'm wearing, and he turns me, goes, do you know what this is like? Yeah, it's a watch.

He goes, that watch is a million dollars, okay? And he says, come here. And I don't know why he's doing this, right? He says, come here. He takes me out to his garage.

There's a Ferrari there, there's a Bentley there, et cetera, et cetera. And I'm going, I'm not sure why you're telling me. And he says, well, I just want you to know that I worked really hard for this. Long story short is he then tells me he's miserably unhappy. And I say, well, look, you have all this stuff.

Why are you unhappy? He says, I want somebody to love me. And I said, okay. And he said, I heard you're a guy who coaches people, and you have these insights. He says, could you help me?

And I said, yes. He says, how would you do that? And I said to him, I said, I'll meet with you for 10 hours, okay? It'll cost you $1 million, okay? Now, here's a guy who's worth hundreds of millions of dollars, right?

He looks at me, goes, how about 500,000?

And you look at the guy, and then his daughter comes over and she overhears this conversation. Or his granddaughter. And she says, maybe it was his daughter. But she says, papa, why wouldn't you give that to him? That's nothing.

And you could be happy. And he goes, oh, you don't know anything about money or life. That money is for you. And she says, I already have more money than I can spend. I don't need any more money.

He looks at me and says, foolish girl. And he never did anything. And my point is, here's a guy, he knows. He's miserable. You can tell by his actions of showing off this massive home, this million dollar watch, these several million dollars in cars.

There's nothing there. And he keeps trying to impress people by showing you the stuff which has. No meaning, is that what you normally charge somebody at that level, or were you just kind of messing with him a little bit? Jeez, I would hope to God somebody would pay me $100,000 an hour. But no, I was just messing with him.

And I would have charged him that because I would have given him what he wanted if he just listened. Because, I mean, the point was, for many people like that, there has to be a price attached to it for them to think it's worth anything. And in fact, actually, that's the way it is for most people. In fact, if you give away a program, people will be suspicious. If you charge them for it.

They think it has value. And it's an interesting paradox. Step one in people going down the path, zooming out here for a second. Actually, I'm going to back up when I think about our interview so far, for the 30 minutes or so that we've been chatting, and I'm imagining myself as an audience listening to it. And I'm hearing that you've written a book about manifestation.

Dhru Purohit
But how manifestation, used correctly with the right focus, can actually give you what you need and not necessarily what you just think you might want. And there's a caveat, which is you're not denying the fact that tapping into the power of manifestation could also give you some things in your life. And sometimes there are very noble things that are there. Somebody might be a small business owner, and they want to see the size of their business double, not necessarily just to put extra money in their pocket, but to hire more people to pay their team members more. You know, it's both the interweaving of the selfish and the selfless combination of those two things that are there.

So I'm hearing as an audience member is we don't want an extreme of one situation or another. We don't want to be the person who's solely motivated by external things. In one aspect, you have this gentleman who lives in Aspen. There's another aspect that's there. And I would say that the other extreme is somebody who forgoes all sense of worldly items and says, I'm going to devote myself to a cause, but their entire identity is wrapped up in they have to do something.

I'm the protester. I'm the activist. I'm the person that needs to make all sacrifices. I don't need, you know, everybody who stands against it is completely against me or this cause. And I've met people like that.

Just, I'm sure, like, you've met people like that and that would be like in another extreme. So from an audience standpoint, they're seeing that you're kind of somebody that's navigating them through the middle of it, which is, there's nothing wrong with having things. It can't be the sole motivation of our life. And if we learn how to tap into the power of manifestation, we can actually not just create for ourself. Yes, some things, but not only things, the deeper riches that we're actually looking for, which is true connection, impact and meaning in the world.

Is that a fair way to understand the conversation? You summarize the book. I don't need to say another damn word. You've ruined the whole energy. No, I think that's exactly right.

James Doty
And that's an incredible insight. You know, it's interesting, the extreme of this person who he sacrifices everything that is as pathologic as in the other direction, because this guy has created a narrative. His identity is tied up into sacrificing everything and having everybody recognize that he sacrificed everything. Right? Because that is a thing that he is carrying with him that causes just as much suffering.

Because, you see, then he looks at it, I did this. I'm doing all of this, and I'm against the world, but I'm doing it. You see, that's just as the same, actually, as the other direction. Both are one. Yeah, of course.

And that's the challenge. Now, I would contrast when you talked about the example you gave of a small business owner. If the small business owner is going through the perspective of, okay, how can I make the most money? Okay, I'm going to raise the prices maximally, I'm going to pay the employees the most minimal wage, I am going to figure out a way where I can skim my taxes. Da da da da da.

If that's his primary motivator, that is wrong, and he's going to be unhappy, and he's not going to be able to manifest if it's a narrative of, I want this business to succeed in this community, to be of service to people, to offer them goods and services that will improve their lives, I will pay my employees a fair wage, and doing all of that, he will prosper. Because, again, and this gets into some other aspects of the book, but then you have an energy about you that's a positive energy. And when you have positive energy, that actually affects everyone around you. The first step that you talk about in the book, to step into that positive energy when it comes to manifestation, is reclaiming the power of your mind to focus why is focus so key? And how do we step away from the noise that's causing us to be unfocused or focused on the wrong thing?

Well, I think that is the challenge, especially in modern society, because we have so many distractions. And whatever social media platform you're talking about, you, I'm sure, appreciate, and many of your audience members may, but these people hire neuroscientists and psychologists to figure out how to make somebody addicted to their narrative, their social media platform. And it is a time sink that takes people away from doing all sorts of wonderful things. But again, you have to reclaim your ability to focus. As I was saying earlier, what Ruth taught me was how to focus, because that's the only time you can learn and that's the only time you're present when we have your attention, your full, undivided attention.

So I think that's a critical aspect of regaining your attention. But it takes effort, but it's readily available. And once you reclaim your attention, then you can direct your attention, and then you can direct your intention inward to impact your subconscious. And what happens is, when you have an intention and you use your attention to embed your intention into your subconscious, then the process of these cognitive brain networks, which are parts of the brains that work together in different circumstances, then it empowers them. And as I was mentioning as an example, we have this thing called the salience network.

So once you are able to embed your intention there, then that creates this process on a subconscious level where you're looking both internally and externally for events that actually will make you manifest your intention. And this is also where your attention network gets empowered, if you will. Because once you are searching around, finding those things that will connect you to manifest your intention, then that will activate your attention network. So you then become focused on that, and it will then downplay your default mode network. And also the nature of what we call your executive control network will actually make it manifest, if you will.

Because when your executive control network is empowered, it is actually the to do part of your brain, it makes it happen. So once you embed your intention, that then activates your salience network, which then empowers your attention network, which then allows your executive control network to actually make that intention manifest. Maybe that was all confusing. No, I'm with you. I'm with you.

Dhru Purohit
And people can always hit rewind. Yes. And practice attention. Right, exactly. And the thing is, in the book, there's actually a six week program that goes through every aspect of this, which is one understanding what you have been manifesting how inefficiently that may be and why you're doing that, and then actually clarifying your intention, and then actually embedding your intention.

If there was one thing that people listening today could start, and one possibility of something that they might stop, for example, to strengthen this power of attention, which goes back to this step one, reclaim your power to focus your mind, what would be something that you might suggest to them, one thing that they could start and maybe one thing they could stop. One of the problems that I have is that I have a tendency to say, I have to do this, and I'm going to do it now. And I pick something that's really hard and complicated, and I go, I'm going to do it. And invariably, if you do that, you almost always fail. The most important thing is baby steps.

James Doty
And you look at a book as an example by BJ Fogg, which is called, I think, tiny habits, and then there's another one called atomic habits. But if you look at changing little things in your life where they actually become habits, in some ways, that's learning how to embed your intention. If you're doing just one thing, okay, and you're making it happen, that in and of itself is a process of focusing your intention and creating these little habits can be extraordinarily powerful. Because what happens is when you're not directing your attention, then you're wandering around all the time. And once you start doing things that require this effort, you realize how powerful that is to make things manifest.

And you start small, and then you move to larger things. I think the other thing is you have to. To give up attachment to the outcome. Because, again, and this may sound strange, but in some ways, we're talking about the difference between fear and love. And what I mean by that is, attachment to an outcome in some ways creates anxiety and stress, which is a manifestation of engagement of your sympathetic nervous system, which fundamentally is a fear reaction, okay?

So if you're attached to that, you're always worried about that, I have to get there. I have to get there. Yet the very nature of that internal dialogue is actually working against you. And that's not to say having a goal isn't important. It's to say that goal becomes so prominent.

That's the only way. Yet we know from manifestation that it can take different paths and turns. And in some ways, it is smarter than you are about knowing the best way for something to happen. As an example, let's say you wanted, let's say, a different house, and you created this whole narrative about that. The narrative being, though, I want this bigger house because I have a large number of children, it has a larger yard.

And not just, I want this house to impress people. Again, two different perspectives. But if you go through all of that and you say, I want it in this place, in this neighborhood, and I want it this big, and da da da da da, and you go through this whole exercise, and then suddenly another opportunity comes up, which is a completely different type of house than you imagine. But then once you get into it, you realize, actually, that was a much better choice for me for all these different reasons, let's say, oh, it turned out that the school, the best school in the area was there, and that's where my children will go. That's a much better than the place I had initially picked, because your subconscious is sorting through all this different information that's at a subconscious level, so you don't appreciate it.

And so when you get a different alternative, you may sit there, that's crude. I wanted this. Why didn't that happen? Well, there are all sorts of other things that were going on there that you weren't aware of, and that in some ways, your subconscious actually guides you sometimes to a better choice. When a lot of us go back and we look at our life, and some of the key things that we're proud about could be finding a partner, a job, maybe, that you got involved in so much of it.

Dhru Purohit
When you look back, if you really pay attention to it, so many of the good things that have happened to us that have made us who we are today have happened largely because of some version of happenstance. And so I'm continuously amazed at how a lot of us, including me, forget about the power that we might have wanted one thing, and yet life took a different course. And it sounds like you're saying our subconscious could be involved and we got something better than what we could have ever imagined. And I think that's exactly right. And this is the nature of synchronicity, which I talk about in the book, or serendipity, if you want to call it that, is that oftentimes the way these events occur.

James Doty
Again, on a conscious level, we don't understand why they occur, but they occur for a reason that actually is much more powerful than what our initial goal was in terms of our manifesting. And that's some of the extraordinary things about it, is that once you are able to unleash this incredible power that you have within and embed your intention, which I talk about, these techniques in the book is this almost gives a direct line into your subconscious, which allows it. And I think I use the example of a bloodhound. You give it a mission or a scent, and the subconscious bloodhound starts going around looking at the circumstances, I'm sure you've been at a party and there's a lot of noise, but if you hear your name, you immediately turn to it, right? Because it's deeply embedded in your subconscious.

The same is true when you let the bloodhound loose. As an example, there was a project I'm working on right now, and again, I use these techniques of manifesting, and I was at a coffee shop, and again, very loud, but a fellow about two tables over started talking about something exactly related to this project. And I turned and I actually went over and introduced myself. And we're working on a project together now. And this is how this works, because on a subconscious level, this bloodhound is always looking around to make serendipity or synchronicity happen.

And that's the way it works. One of the areas that often gets misconstrued with manifestation that you chat about also in the book is the idea that it's devoid of action. Can you talk about the relationship between manifestation and action? If there was maybe an additional criticism that might be there about something like the secret, I'm going to ask you what you did like about the secret in a little bit, too. I want to be fair to, uh, you know, that, you know, that work, that body of work.

Dhru Purohit
Uh, but one of the criticisms would be that people walked away thinking that action isn't an important part of the equation. Can you talk about action? You know, at the start of the book, I said, you know, the universe doesn't give a about you. But I would also say, God only helps those who help themselves. And what I mean by that is, it's not like you just sit down and go, okay, I want this.

James Doty
And it's one and done. I mean, it takes work. And as you know, the main ways to embed your intention is to make it familiar, because the brain doesn't know the difference between what's real and what's not real. And by writing down, by reading silently, reading aloud, visualizing that taking place, seeing yourself in that position. And when I was a kid, I literally would do this 10, 15, 20 times a day.

I mean, I had this list of ten things that I wanted, and I would just go through it all day long. Now, some people talk about vision boards, anything to constantly remind you and put at the top of your list. But there's another aspect, which is the reality that the brain receives about 10 million bits of information a second through your sensory organs. And of course that defines who we are. And it's primarily related to homeostasis.

On a conscious level, we're only able to process 50 to 100, but that 50 to 100 we can actually direct with intention into our subconscious through something called value tagging. We put a value on it then that stimulates the salience network on an unconscious level, to constantly be looking around for opportunities to have that intention manifest, and it directs our attention to that. And then once that happens and we see an opportunity, then again that stimulates or empowers the executive control network, which gives you access to memory, experiences and also the to do part of manifesting. And so using the technique with intention of taking the information that is at a conscious level, and if you will value tagging it, then that fixates it in the subconscious and gives it the greatest likelihood to manifest. Some people think, well, I should be able to manifest anything I want.

It doesn't work that way. Nothing's 100%. And as I said, it doesn't always work out the way you think it should. And also it doesn't often work in the timeline you would like. I mean, there's some people say, well, you know, I want this mansion to magically appear and I'm going to give it till next week.

And if it doesn't, you know, this whole thing's a failure. Again, there's no way it works like that at all. And again, to maximally have this work, I again will suggest you, you have to change your perception of how you see the world. It has to be, in my opinion, in the context of how can I do actions that improve the lives of others or have a larger meaning beyond myself? By doing so, you benefit.

You benefit in all sorts of ways. And we were talking about compassion. In some ways, having that perspective is a compassionate act. When you are compassionate, based on our evolution, every part of your physiology works better. You're happier, you're more open, you're more thoughtful, your physiology works its best.

Your heart rate variability is decreased, which is a good thing. Your heart rate is decreased, your blood pressure is decreased, your immune system is boosted, your cortisol or stress hormone levels are diminished, the expression of inflammatory proteins are decreased. All from being thoughtful and kind and compassionate and look at the world through the lens of how can I be of service and improve the world? You have a dramatic positive impact on yourself. But the very nature of that, it changes your goals and aspirations.

You realize, yes, it's nice to have a Ferrari, but it's not the Ferrari. The Ferrari doesn't identify me. I don't need it. But it's nice to have it. If it's there and you're not attached to that, you're not attached to these things which people confuse with them.

And somehow having more makes people feel better about themselves when at the end of the day, they don't feel better about themselves. And that's the sad situation. You see some of these extraordinarily wealthy people, they have ten homes. They each cost $10 million apiece. They have a hundred million dollar yacht, and they fly everywhere.

And all they're doing is running away because they're trying to find the next experience. Like, I'm going to be with this celebrity, I'm going to be at this dinner, I'm going to be at the yacht. But it's all about the thing. It's not about a deep seated sense of happiness. And the horribly sad thing is, for so many of these people, they're so fixated on that, that they have lost this and they're running around chasing nothing, when simply by changing their perspective, they could enhance the lives of thousands, if not hundreds of thousands of people by just a small amount of the resources that they have.

Dhru Purohit
When you take an inventory of your life today, and you're thinking about things that you want to put your attention on, both for yourself and for the betterment of all the projects that you're involved in and the different leaders around the world that you work with, how are you approaching what you actually want to manifest? Does it look like some sort of traditional goal setting? Is it more spontaneous? Or do you use any other framework to actually get clear on what you want to bring and allow to unfold in your life? Again, like I was mentioning, habits, the way my mindset is I work on projects that obviously benefit me in some way, but almost all of them, in fact, pretty much all of them, are focused on being of service.

James Doty
As an example, there's a company I started called Happy AI. That's ha Ppi AI, and it is actually a mental health counselor for individuals who have stress and anxiety and loneliness associated with living in the modern world. The unique thing about it is that it uses an emotion assessment engine combined with a AI knowledge base of psychology and compassion focused therapy actually connected to a human avatar. The avatar actually talks to you and guides you in terms of queries you have about things that are causing you distress. On the one hand, it's a private business, but on the other hand, its goal is to be of service, and it's very much structured to, it's not going after.

How can I look at every customer as a profit center? It's saying we need to make x to survive and to satisfy our investors. But the goal here is primarily to be of service.

And also as an example, I'm working on a project, a compassionate countries index, where we look at different countries and see how they're functioning for the individual in terms of thriving what the country's doing and what the country's obligations are to the rest of the world. And so again, this is outwardly focused, but the benefit of that is that it will, if it's successful, allow me to do other interesting projects. And again, nothing, to me at least, is more deep than connecting with people and making their lives better. And it's pretty simple. And I think that's what you're trying to do.

And I think using the different techniques we describe, this allows you to live a happy life, a life of meaning and purpose, but also understand that it's great to have things. The things aren't the point, though, it's to enjoy them. It's not to get lost in them. So once you've gotten to take this one step further, once you've gotten clarification on some larger goals, projects, things that you want to give love to, within each of those, there's going to be micro things that you want to do. Now that you've gotten the macro clear, do you have a framework or methodology that you use to support the principles that you were taught by, by Ruth in addition to the mindful practices?

Dhru Purohit
Again, you outline a lot of them in the book. Making sure that you are not in constant fight or flight, making sure that your nervous system is set up in a beautiful way, making sure you're practicing mindfulness techniques on a regular basis, meditation. You've written about that. Is there anything else that you do? Are you actively a journaler?

Do you practice any kind of vision boarding that's there that allows you to tap into these things to help supercharged those projects? Yes. So I have a list of things I want to accomplish, and I will tell you, one has been sitting for 16 years, but it's an important one and I still put effort into it and it may or may not manifest in my lifetime, but, yeah, so I have a list of things that I go through and I review what I have written about them and look at the different aspects of connections, I have to make them manifest. And I think about it. I mean, I will actually meditate about that particular project.

James Doty
And what I find is that when I do that, it unfrees my mind in the sense I'm not just focusing everywhere on these different things. I focus on that and I sit with that and then I see all these different connections that can happen and then hopefully they do manifest. As an example, I've been working on creating an international day of compassion. So one of the aspects of that is you need to have a leader of government write a letter in support of this. Right.

Well, I just happened to be in Hyderabad and in Ashram, and Modi ended up coming there and he had planned to come there, but getting him on board with this project. President of India. Yes, yes. Or I was reached out to by the king of Bhutan, who I just happened to end up talking to after they asked me to. And now I'm heading to Bhutan to talk about this further with him.

So did I plan from the start that it was going to be these two individuals? No, but that's where the process led me. Right, but you do actively think about these things. You meditate on them. You get messages from what, your subconscious?

Yes, absolutely. In terms of possibilities that would allow these things to further and even some insights about what would be the pathway to it. And then do you write those things down? Yes, yes, and sometimes I will write them down and I will rewrite them and refine the vision and. Yes, and so that's sort of the process, actually.

And so many of the techniques that people are familiar with, they are powerful. It's just tweaking them a little bit in the context of how you activate your mind to make the manifest are really the keys here. I'm not dismissing manifestation and some of the techniques that have been described. What I am dismissing is the woo woo and the pseudoscience that floats around with this. And that limits people, as an example, sort of being self focused when the power is in actually being of service to others.

And then you're getting all the other things. It's not. I want this first. And the other thing doesn't matter. The other thing is the most important thing.

Dhru Purohit
When it comes to the topic of manifestation, one thing that I often hear from my audience, whenever it comes to goals, manifestation, strengthening their focus, is what if you're somebody that actually doesn't know what they want in life, but rather feels that the life that they're living right now, there's something more there for them? They just don't know what. What would your recommendation to this person be? Well, I think that's an excellent question, and I would suggest there's probably a lot of those people who don't know for sure what they want. In fact, actually, I have many friends.

James Doty
You know, I knew in fourth grade I was going to be a doctor. Well, that makes it pretty easy. And if you will, I manifested that. But I have friends who are in their thirties, forties, who still have no clue, and they sort of get bounced around. I think that that's okay.

I think if you attune yourself, though, again, to looking at the world through the lens of how can I be helpful? That in some ways gives you direction versus worrying about if your house is bigger than the next person's or you're driving the latest car again, that's where people get sidetracked. And so if you go through, if you live a life looking at the world through this idea of what are the actions I can do to just be helpful, the world seems to have a desire to help you. Now, is this true 100% of the time? Of course not.

Have people had horrible things happen to them who sort of were on the right track? Of course. And that's why on some level, you know, people say, well, you know, the universe is against me. The reality is that there's so many different things going on that we can't control everything. And even doing everything the absolute correct way will lead to disappointment.

And that is the way it is. You know, I use this technique of having an optimistic disposition or dispositional optimism. And the idea is that I have a deep seated belief that things will work out the best for me. I have a deep seated belief that if I'm kind and thoughtful, that that will be a tool to make that happen. But I also accept that I have no control over things and on some level, and that all I can do is the best I can do.

But have I had major disappointments? Of course. And the key is not to get lost in them. The key is to understand that disappointment, the ups and downs, are just part of life. And yes, people have some horrible circumstances, and yes, people, unfortunately, are in circumstances of which they have absolutely no control and their suffering and being punished for things that are not in any way their fault.

And I cannot sit here and tell you, jeez, just do everything in my book, and life is going to be roses. It's not going to work out that way. Unfortunately, it doesn't work out that way. And I do not have every answer for the world's suffering. So I'm not going to pretend that, oh, just read my book and you'll have a happy life.

There are circumstances that are horrible that people have to live through or die from, and I do not have, nor does anyone else, I believe, have the power to make those instantly disappear or make them get better. I wish I did. But it also begs the point that each of us, though, has a world in which we live in, and within that circumstance we can have an impact. And so what I suggest to people is within your sphere of influence and your ability to have an impact, that use it to make people's lives better. And sometimes that's just saying hello to somebody.

Sometimes it's buying them a meal, sometimes it's just reaching out if they seem hurt or upset. And again, this is the nature of being present. It's being present that actually results in a happy life. You're present to events that are happening every step of the way versus, as you know, there are people who, they set a goal and they discard everything in their pathway to get to the goal, because the goal is the tenement to the only thing that is important in their lives. And they miss their life because they're focused on that.

You know, it's like these fellows who, we have people who say, you know, I wake up at four in the morning and I run half a marathon, and then I eat 1900 calories a day, and then I go and I do this and I do that. Well, what type of a life is that other than sort of a selfish, narcissistic view of the world? But this is only my opinion there. Some of these people have millions of followers. So you could argue I know nothing.

Dhru Purohit
Well, whether they have millions of followers or they only have one follower, the real question is, is that life working for them? And maybe there could be a situation or circumstance. Somebody wants to go through a period of life where they really want to challenge themselves and they want to overcome limiting beliefs. And at that point in time in their life, they're focused on that and they could end up being somebody who might be, you know, deeply happy perception. No, no, I think you're absolutely right.

James Doty
And I think your point about limiting beliefs, people are suffering and they will do actions that overcome those limiting beliefs. I think the problem is for some of those people, though, is the statement is, if I do it and you're not able to do it, you're a loser. And I think this is the message. The projection to the audience. Yes.

And I think, unfortunately for some people, this is the message. And they beat themselves up every day saying, well, you know, this guy said he does this, and I've been working on this and I can't do it. And why isn't that possible for me? So I think there is a balance like there is with everything. And so, yeah, some of these techniques to make you healthier and to overcome these limiting beliefs, which is really what we're talking about in the nature of manifestation.

Your own created limiting beliefs. Because you have to overcome those to have the power to change your life. And so I think that is important. Again, I'm taking this to the extreme. That happens to some individuals who, in fact, I know a guy who.

He's sort of that way. And he says, you're a loser, man, because you don't do these things. I said, well, I don't think anybody's a loser. I think people have different paths. And it's not fair to call somebody that.

Not everybody is you. Right? Of course, for sure. On the topic of limiting beliefs, there's a whole section in the book, it's step three, which is remove the obstacles in your mind. And it goes deep into this topic of identifying these limiting beliefs that are holding us back.

Dhru Purohit
You mentioned just before we got into this part of the conversation, disappointments. We've all had disappointments in our life. We've all had things that have gone not according to plan. And sometimes severely feel like we might have been disenfranchised by something or wronged by a situation. And then there are times where those things can permanently hold people back because they've contributed to, added on, built upon a limiting belief.

You talk about some techniques that people can use, which is step one is even identifying that you have a limiting belief in the first place. What are some of those techniques that you talk about? Well, I think the most important thing is actually identifying them. Because, again, many of us go through life, as we were talking about earlier, where we talk about we have a vision, we're always trying to manifest, but we don't have any understanding of how manifestation works. One of the impairments of manifesting is limiting beliefs.

James Doty
A narrative that you tell yourself, which many people do, which is, I'm not good enough. I'm not worthy, I don't deserve love. It's not possible. And as soon as you say something like that, that becomes your reality. So having self affirmation, being kind to yourself.

And again, it's like some of these other aspects of manifestation. You have a list and you repeat them. You have actually a list of affirmations you tell yourself and unlimited possibilities that you tell yourself over and over again so that that becomes the dominant narrative. Not, I hate myself, I'm never going to be anything. I think that's probably the most powerful one, one of the techniques that I use, which is actually from my first book, but I still use to, if you will, balance me and not get me lost in sort of my own limiting beliefs, if you will, as I go through a mental exercise every morning, and it sets my intention for the day and it gives me the tools not to get lost one in aspects of our modern world that distracts me but also empowers me.

And so what I do is I wake up every day and I sit by the side of the bed and I actually do a breathing exercise, which I know, you know, and many listeners, the very nature of doing a breathing exercise actually engages your parasympathetic nervous system, right? And that's where you're more open, you're more thoughtful, you're more creative, you're more productive, your physiology works its best. And I do that for a little bit. And then I go through an exercise of thinking of the awe that inspires me in this world and then also the joy of living in this world. And then I go through this Alphabet of the heart, and it's ten letters of the Alphabet.

C for compassion, for self and others. D recognizing the dignity of every person. E, practicing equanimity. F, practicing forgiveness. G having gratitude.

H is humility. I is having integrity and values that bind you. J is for justice or our responsibility for caring for the vulnerable. K is kindness. All of this is contained by love.

When I turkish talked about earlier, this is this distinction between fear and love. When you walk with the world with fear, you create a perception in your head of scarcity. You grab onto things, you want things, and you're insecure about yourself. So you grab onto things that you think will make you look better to others because you're always looking for outside affirmation versus when you're able to let that go and look through the other lens, it opens things up for you. There is no scarcity.

Everything is possible. The world is a generous and kind place. It's not something to be scared of. And when you look at through that lens, you make many more connections with people. And actually people want to help you.

And one of the most important aspects of manifesting is to create this energy about you, where people want to connect with you and help you. And I'm sure you have met people who you meet them and there's this incredible energy about them, this joy about them, and you're going, wow, I want to be around this person. I mean, it's incredible. And then there are other people who you meet and you want to get away from as quickly as possible. And the reality is, what people don't appreciate is when we re attune our psyche, if you will, it changes your vibrational energy.

Now, I know in some spheres of wooness and pseudoscience, people use this and make up all sorts of aspects of this. But many of what they say is true, based on neuroscience as an example, your heart puts out an energy that goes five or 6ft beyond you and it has an impact on others. And when you carry that energy with you, it sort of changes the environment. And in fact, I'm sure you probably know, as an example, if you have a group of women who live together, over time, their periods were synchronized, will synchronize. And when you're around people and you carry that energy, and there are other people like that, that creates an immense amount of power and connection between those other people.

In fact, you even look at a metronome, which is an inanimate object, theoretically a metronome or a nonliving objective. If you put five of them together on a table, at some point their oscillations will match. And so there is this energy about you that you do have some control over. It's just you have to learn how to embrace it and use it to your advantage. So you're basically telling people that if they get bad vibes from somebody, pay attention to that because there might be something there.

I would say that can be very, very true. I think the kids these days call it a vibe check. You know, it's funny you say that because there are all these abbreviations people use, which, you know, you get text messages from, I guess, are they adolescents we call them, or is it Gen Zers now? And I have no clue what they're, you know, like IRL. What is that in real life, right?

Yeah. Yeah. So.

Dhru Purohit
I heard you on another podcast you did recently where you were alluding to one way, one practice that you can use to identify limiting beliefs is to catch yourself being critical of yourself. What are the common areas where you quietly. People don't even realize it. They just. It's a thought in their head.

They don't realize it, that their mind is thinking that thought. Often it's from their default network. It's not them trying to think this thought on purpose. So it's old beliefs and there'll be a critical thought about themselves. So if you catch these thoughts when they happen, when you say, oh my gosh, that was so stupid.

Sometimes people say it out loud, but often it's quietly they're telling themselves, you're an idiot. Why did you say that? You'll never be loved, et cetera? That could be one way of seeing some clues of what your limiting beliefs are. Well, the thing is, again, as soon as you say that, it's putting sort of a seed down.

James Doty
And again, we're talking about habits. That becomes a habit. In fact, I have a good friend who's a super nice guy, but it's like, you know, every five or ten sentences he says something critical about himself. And in some ways, I think it's self deprecation to be accepted. But it's a dangerous thing too, because again, when you make these statements, that can become reality.

And again, your brain doesn't know the difference between what you say or think and what is real. As an example, studies have been shown that if you think about exercising your muscles, they actually get larger just from the thought of exercising your muscles. And this has been shown in a number of studies. And so when you sit there and say, you know, I'm worthless, I that was stupid. I'm stupid, I'm stupid.

Then that starts getting embedded and you start believing it. So what I have done and try to do for myself, because it happens to all of us, is I. As soon as I start to think that or say it, I say the opposite. Or a statement of affirmation every time. What's one of your most favorite affirmations that you use?

Personally, I am worthy.

So often we have this thing in our head that says, well, I don't deserve this. Versus, yes, I deserve it. In fact, I deserve a lot more because I'm a thoughtful, nice, kind person. And there's nothing wrong with telling yourself you're a thoughtful, nice, kind person. If you are, of course, now, I would suggest you that nothing is 100%.

And there's a subset of people who probably think I'm a jerk, and maybe in their world I am. But that's okay. I don't know of anyone who has 100% success rate. And people carry their own baggage or biases which make them feel uncomfortable around some people. As an example, even in my own training as a neurosurgeon, the most competent and probably most well respected teacher of mine was a huge fan of mine.

When I worked with him, things went really well, I had a lot of respect for him, he had a lot of respect for me. But there was another fellow who was insecure about himself, and so he would always have to beat me up and make comments, negative comments, because I was very good at what I was doing. But it made him feel more uncomfortable, so he had to be critical. And I felt actually sorry for the guy that he felt he had to do that. But there are people like that, and you sort of have to understand that oftentimes the manner in which somebody interacts with you oftentimes has nothing to do with you at all.

In fact, I had a case several years ago of a colleague, a physician, much younger than me, in his thirties, and we were working on a research project, and I would meet with him every couple weeks, and super nice guy. And we were meeting, and it's like out of the blue he starts an argument about something. It was completely irrelevant, but it's going, no, that's not true. I disagree with that, and I don't think we should do that. I'm looking at the guy going, it's like a complete personality change.

And what many of us do, oftentimes in those situations, we react to them like, what the hell are you saying? And you get into this conflict. But this was so unlike him. And fortunately, I had worked on my own emotion regulation, which is to be non reactive oftentimes, or to be more thoughtful. And I looked him, I said, you know, this is not like you at all.

What's going on with you? And he looked at me for a couple seconds and he burst into tears.

And what had happened was that he had quit his position. And as you know, in the United States, you need to get gap insurance, Cobra insurance. And he was married, a young family, two children, and he thought that he didn't need to get it because it was expensive. And he was getting this other job in a couple months. So why get it?

Well, in the interval, his wife found a lump on her breast, turned out to be cancer, so now he had no insurance. So the driver of his behavior, it wasn't about our research project. He was terrified and scared. That was the driver. And that happens oftentimes to us where we don't know what's going on with somebody else and why they're reacting a certain way.

And this is also the idea of giving people the benefit of the doubt. Now, the rest of his story, fortunately, was that I was able to help him get retroactive cobra insurance. He got it. The breast mass was removed. She didn't need any other treatment?

They're fine. But it just reminds you that you can never know what is going on in someone else's head. And the other aspect is also, I'm sure you've probably been cut off in traffic by somebody. Yeah. And at least for men, I'm sure women would never do this, but we sometimes use a hand gesture or perhaps use a profanity.

But the reason I bring that up is you think about that and you do get suddenly angry and tense up and you're wondering why this person did that. But then if you reframe it, and this, again, all about perception, how it is in your control to see the world a different way. If you reframe that and sit there and say, well, you know, the passenger in the car was this guy's wife. She was nine months pregnant. Her water broke, she's bleeding, he's trying to get her to the hospital.

Then suddenly, oh, my God, I understand what's going on here, and I'm not angry anymore. I just hope they get there safely. Right. But in a microsecond, you can reframe how your mind sees the world. And I think that's what we all should do.

And part of that is giving people the benefit of the doubt, hoping that our actions help others. All of that will maximize your ability to manifest. Because in some ways, it's all about focusing on the love aspect of our lives, not being fearful of our lives. So would it be fair to say that the more we're holding on to a victim narrative that life is happening to us, that other people are doing things to us, that we don't have agency, the harder genuinely it would be to manifest our goals and dreams. Absolutely.

I think that's a great summation. You're actually saying things much better than I am. So I thank you for that. So I appreciate that. But I think that's right.

And now, again, as I said earlier, there are situations that people can't control, but I think people can control how they respond to events. And if every time they respond to an event is, I'm a victim, this shouldn't have happened to me. People are taking advantage of me. I have no control. Then they actually, unfortunately, manifest that.

And so most people do have the ability to take control of different aspects or see the world in a different way. The very nature of seeing the world in a different way actually increases your ability to manifest. And that's by not being a victim, but understanding within you is an immense amount of power to change your circumstances. And by using the techniques that I talk about, this can actually change your life and change your life for the better, but not only your life, it changes everyone's life around you. I was on X.com, formerly known as Twitter, a few weeks ago, and I came across this really cool clip from the CEO of Nvidia.

Dhru Purohit
I'm blanking on his name, but this is now one of the most successful companies in the world, chip manufacturers, the chip behind all these AI devices that people are using and different things. Well, it's funny you say that, because a friend of mine, mine worked there, and about a year ago, he said, you know, Jim, you really need to buy stock in Nvidia. I didn't. You weren't able to manifest that. Yeah, well, apparently I chose not to.

Well, one of the things the CEO was saying in town hall that he was doing fireside chat was he said that he's seen since the earliest part of his career that when individuals come in with very high expectations, whether these are people that he's mentoring, whether these people are senior leadership that joins his team, he said, the higher your expectations are, the less successful you'll often be with many of these outcomes. You kind of touched on this a little bit earlier, but this idea that we have to release expectations and be open to the magic that wants to unfold, how do we do that and how do we straddle both releasing expectations, but really having the drive to actually pursue some of these goals that we want to achieve in our life, not just for the betterment of ourselves, but for the people around us? Well, again, there's nothing wrong with setting goals and working very hard to accomplish them. I think that the challenge comes in, and there are two parts of this. One is to always have beginner's mind.

James Doty
And what I mean by that is as somebody gets expertise in something, they start closing their mind off to different possibilities. And also when someone is firmly attached to a very, very specific outcome, then they're only focused on that and not the other possibilities that can allow them to have success with a slightly different outcome. And what I mean by that, it may not be exactly what they want or envisioned, it's slightly different. But because they're so fixated on it being exactly the way they want, in many ways it disempowers them because, one, they're not open to other options, and you have to always be open to other options. And this is the nature of beginner's mind.

So the goal is wonderful. It's though, believing that there's only one way to do it, and it's your way that, I think, causes people problems. And I think that's what he's talking about. You know, they're so fixated on their vision of the goal, they're not open to any other possibilities.

Dhru Purohit
And being open to possibilities, that's the magic. Where does magic come from? My book?

James Doty
Well, it's available to all of us at any time. It's just we have to recognize it's with us. And again, this gets back to when we talked about the law of attraction. In some ways, this idea that it is all in our mind. And it's though our gift to be able to control our minds.

As you know, I mean, these different mind training techniques are extraordinarily powerful, as I use an example in the book, these tibetan meditation masters, or another example is Wim Hof. You know, they control their body temperature, their heart rate. But again, it's not effortless. You have to put in the work to do that. And the thing is that having access to the power of your mind and then utilizing the techniques to increase the strength of that are really the key here.

And, you know, we did mention and individuals who go to extremes, well, it's not because it's easy. It's because these people have used the techniques to master the power they have within themselves to control their minds. I had an interview with a guy named Charlie Engel, and he's an ultra, ultra marathon runner, and he's been doing it for many years now. The stimulus for that probably was he was also a crack addict at one point, but he has such control over his mind that he doesn't feel pain. And so for him, these long ultra marathon distances, he does them, and it's not because they're easy, but he's mastered how to control the signals from his mind that tell him to stop or not to do it or it's not possible.

And I think many of the people who are talking about these extreme individuals, they have mastered the same techniques. And it is possible, if that is what you feel you need to reach, sort of, or to reach your goal or if you will, to promote thriving for yourself. But again, thriving can be defined in many different ways by different people. So we went through a bunch of these steps that are part of this six step process that you were taught by Ruth when you first encountered her and met her, and you went in to the magic shop looking for something to do, a trick. Was it with a thumb?

It was a thumb. A plastic thumb. Plastic thumb, yes. Yes. I still have that thumb, although it doesn't fit my thumb anymore, but.

Yes, that's exactly right. Yeah. And you took those things and in your first book, you talk about this account and the lessons that ultimately led to you building and creating this life where both externally you're able to create a lot of what people would say is successful. You having lost that, again, those external items, but reconnecting to this deeper sense of who you are and going on to found many incredible projects, become neuroscientist, neurosurgeon, helped the Dalai Lama with the foundation, co found it with him. And in this new book here, it's going deeper in the process of actually, what is the step by step process of manifestation.

Dhru Purohit
And the last chapter, I believe, is chapter eight. You walk people through exactly a protocol for it, either chapter eight or chapter nine. It's like a whole protocol. If they want to go through that process, that's there. Yes.

James Doty
It's a six week program. Six week program. And they can walk through that. For those that didn't hear, our first episode where I asked you about this question, whatever happened to Ruth? It's interesting you bring that up because I've been asked that question numerous times.

Interesting thing is, when I was twelve, she was probably in her fifties. And so I didn't find out what happened to her, actually, until I wrote the first book. Because what happened was, after I'd had this interaction with her, I actually, several months later, went back to the strip mall where this magic shop was. And it was every store, there was clothes, and there was a fence surrounding the strip mall. And I don't know what they were going to do, remodel it or whatever, but all the businesses were gone.

So I never had another interaction with her at all. And it was sort of what happened was sort of evocative because I, as you recall, used to have this orange stingray bike with this banana seat that I used to ride around it. And I rode my bike up there and it was dusk and the wind was sort of blowing and there was this blue sky with sort of streaks of clouds there. And I was just wondering, did I imagine all of this? I mean, it was really strange.

Now, the sign on the store was still there, so obviously I didn't. But it was just the most strange experience. It was as if it was brought there for me, right? And then it was gone. And as I was sitting there thinking about this, the wind blew, this huge tumbleweed hit me and my bike.

It was actually a very strange experience. But what I found out later was that a few years after my interaction with her, she was diagnosed with breast cancer and died from the breast cancer. Now, what's strange, though, later, after that book came out, I got an email from a fellow, and he said, my parents were best friends with Ruth, and her last name was Workman. And he said, I want to share something with you. So he and I met, and he actually had a book that she had given to his parents that she had signed as a gift to them and also a necklace that she had given to his mother, which he gave me.

So I sort of have this connection to her. That'S beautiful. And, of course, her legacy lives on through the books, the interviews, the work you've done, and that you continue to do in this world. And she's become now a mentor to all of us. Well, thank you.

That's kind of you. But, you know, and again, it's. I didn't appreciate at the time, but she said basically to pay it forward. And so, again, I didn't understand the lessons initially, and it was all about me. Right.

I was doing this stuff to be accepted, to be told I was okay, and I lost touch with what she really was sharing with me and the power of it. And so once I lost everything, it put me back to this period of reflection to really understand the key lessons that she was teaching me. And really, that's what's in this new book is the lessons that she taught me, the power of them. And hopefully to allow you not to make the same mistakes I've made. But again, when you're young, it's sometimes you have to learn yourself.

But hopefully, this will give some people the ability to avoid those and really manifest their dreams and change the world in a positive way. With Ruth's influence on your life. I am also thinking about this question that Einstein was known for putting out there. He's saying, paraphrasing here, but one of the most important things that a human being can ask himself is, is the universe a place for good? Is a universe a driver of goodness?

Dhru Purohit
When you think about the world today and where it's headed, are we headed for the better? Are we headed for the worse, and what is all of our part in the unfolding of it? We'd love to hear your thoughts on that. Well, I'm glad you really saved the easiest question for last, probably, I think the universe. And again, I use the universe cautiously, because in the book.

James Doty
And I will answer your question, because in the book, I said, the universe doesn't give a fuck about you. But at the end of the book, basically, I said, you are the universe. But I do believe that the universe is good. I would like to believe that. Do I have any empirical evidence of that?

No, but it doesn't matter, because all of us create a life, hopefully, that allows us to be our best selves. And while the universe may not care, in fact, I was talking to John Hamm about this, and he said, at best it's indifferent, but it doesn't matter what the universe, whether it's good or bad. It only matters how I see myself in the world and how I choose to seek goodness in the world. And I think inherently, 95% of people are good, otherwise the world wouldn't work. 95%?

I believe it's only a very small percentage that take us on these extreme paths that cause us problems. I think, yes, we will continue to have significant ups and downs, and we will unfortunately not learn from the history that has been before us. But at the end of the day, I think that goodness will prevail.

Dhru Purohit
Doctor Doty, thank you so much for being here. It's such a pleasure to actually meet you in person after being so inspired by your work and loving our first interview together. The book comes out May 7. Would you just share the title again? We'll put the link in the show notes.

And of course, you have your own podcast too, so I'd love to give that a mention. Oh, sure. As well. Oh, that's kind of you. So what's the first question?

James Doty
Oh, the book. The name of the book. Mind magic.

Mind magic. The neuroscience of manifestation and how it changes everything. My podcast is called into the Magic Shop, and that's pretty simple. And it's based on the first book. And I strive to have people who are being kind, being compassionate, who are trying to improve the world on that podcast, which I think hopefully inspires people.

The other thing for people I mentioned, happy AI happi AI. And actually, at this moment, anybody can sign up and try the app. There's no charge for it. And if you do sign up, please share your comments. And also, there's a center that I run at Stanford called the center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education, of which the Dalai Lama is the founding benefactor.

And we teach courses on compassion, self compassion, and how to deal with stress and anxiety. Drew, thank you so much. I appreciate you having me, and it is a pleasure to meet in person. So thank you again. No, thank you.

Dhru Purohit
Another topic of goodness. Thank you for bringing so much goodness today to our audience. We'll have the links for everything you mentioned below, especially the book, which I enjoyed. Please pick up a copy. Doctor Doty, thank you again for being here.

James Doty
Thank you.

Dhru Purohit
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Neuroscientist Explains How To Rewire The Brain To Manifest Your Goals And Desires With Dr. James Doty

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