Synced: Ross's Hot Dogs

This episode dives into the amusing and insightful comparisons between hypothetical survival scenarios with either a man or a bear, igniting a broader discussion on gender perceptions and safety.

1. The discussion reveals a complex examination of fear and safety regarding humans versus animals.
2. It highlights the societal and personal biases that influence our perception of safety around men and bears.
3. The episode encourages listeners to think critically about how gender perceptions affect our sense of security.
4. There's a notable exploration of the role of humor in discussing serious topics like safety and assault.
5. The conversation extends beyond the initial question, touching on broader issues of trust, manipulation, and societal expectations.

1. Introduction to the Dilemma

The hosts introduce the central dilemma of choosing between a man and a bear for company in a survival scenario. They discuss their personal choices and the reasoning behind them, which unfolds into a broader dialogue on safety and perceptions. Monica Padman: "I guess I'd probably rather have a man in the forest. Cause I could at least use manipulative tactics." Liz Plank: "Like 100% a bear. Because at least with a bear, I'll die."

2. Societal Perceptions and Personal Safety

This chapter delves deeper into societal perceptions of safety, discussing how these influence personal choices in hypothetical survival situations. Liz Plank: "But then you think through the options, and I was like, oh, no."

3. Broader Implications and Humor in Discussion

The hosts explore the broader implications of the survival scenario, using humor to discuss serious topics like gender violence and societal expectations. Monica Padman: "So many men have been upset about this."

1. Reflect on personal biases and how they affect perceptions of safety and danger.
2. Use discussions, even humorous ones, to explore and challenge societal norms.
3. Engage in conversations about safety and threats to develop a more nuanced understanding.
4. Consider how gender perceptions influence interactions and feelings of security.
5. Stay informed about wildlife behavior to make educated decisions about animal encounters.

In this episode of Synced Monica and Liz dig into the man versus bear debate, they check in about last week's date, and share important sidewalk rules. They answer listener questions on the pressures to get plastic surgery while aging and if/when one should pee in a pool.

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Monica Padman
Hi. I love this sweater. Thanks. I got it. Is it really like an OG?

I think so. I got it at the Rose bowl food market. Ew. We were just talking about the man versus bear. I was like.

Liz Plank
I knew. I was like, do you think Monica hasn't seen it? Well, I saw you did a gaslight. Oh, so you know about it. What were you saying?

But do you know what the thing is? Like, the prompt? No. It was like, an Internet trend. Oh, what was it?

Where this guy made this video, and he asked these women on the street, would you rather be alone in the forest with a bear or a man? Oh, fuck.

Monica Padman
That's a hard question, right? You would think it's an easy one, and then you start thinking it should. What would be your answer? I guess I'd probably rather have a man in the forest. Cause I could at least use manipulative tactics.

But on a bear, they're just gonna maul you. You can't manipulate a bear into. Exactly. Submission. Interesting.

What would you pick? Or what did you pick? I think it's a great question. First you want to say, of course, a man. But then you think through the options, and I was like, oh, no.

Liz Plank
Like 100% a bear. Because at least with a bear, I'll die. And with the man, it's like, who knows what's gonna happen? You'd rather definitely die than be kidnapped. And put into someone's basement.

Monica Padman
So we're for certain this is a bad dude? Well, I think it's the unknown of, like, it might be, but. Exactly. So you think it's a strong enough possibility that it's a bad dude that you would pick that or that he. Turns into a bad dude?

Liz Plank
We're alone for an unlimited amount of time. I think it's not just, like, an afternoon if I'm stuck there. I think the bear. I think the bear would be less of a threat. Interesting.

Monica Padman
So do you think all men will turn evil? I don't think all men, but all bears will. No, a lot of bears. Okay. I love that you didn't even know about it.

Liz Plank
This is how much I know. This is great. It's been, like a whole Internet discourse, right? And there's been, like, many levels of it. The first level was sort of this conversation.

Then there was another level from women who work with bears and women being like, I've encountered hundreds of bears in my life, and I've only been attacked once by a man. Stuff like that, of just acknowledging sort of the difference in the likelihood. And bear experts or natural wildlife experts speaking to that. There are people who are attacked by bears every year, but it's not actually that frequent. That's because the encounters aren't frequent.

No, but even proportionally speaking, like, the fact that one in four women will be assaulted, it's not one in four people who interact with a bear will be assaulted. But I don't think that's exactly an appropriate analogy because the women are interacting with a ton of men and one bear. Yeah, but it's the same proportion with the amount of. I mean, it's not the same proportion because the quantity is actually different. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I think if it was pure numbers, then I think you're right, but it's proportionally speaking. So you have four guys and four bears. There's one of the guys that's gonna assault you, and it's not one in forebears that's gonna assault you. It's like, lower. How can they know that?

I mean, according to. No way to know that. Well, just so far, in the same way that we examine and observe men and human beings, the likelihood of it happening. But again, to me, that's actually less important. What's really important is sort of the idea that, like, I'd rather die at the hands of a bear.

Cause then it'll just be done. Rather than, like, whatever unknown I'm facing with a man. And sort of just like, how omnipresent the threat of sexual assault is. I think for women everywhere. It is funny.

Monica Padman
Cause often when we'd have these conversations. I do think it's an interesting role reversal, because I don't invite very many strange men into my life. But you do. So it's kind of funny that you'll say you'll rather die when you kind of spend a life putting yourself in this forest all the time. That's true.

And I don't. So I should be more on the side of the bear. I should be more on the side of the bear also. So many men have been upset about this. I would be.

Of course, I feel that this is a little extreme, personally. So interesting. Don't get me wrong. Right? So a lot of men are upset and saying, you know, women hate men.

Liz Plank
And I was like, no, we actually love men. Like, the fact that we are willing to still. Again, I'll meet up with strange men all the time in an attempt to connect and to be in a relationship with a man, despite a lot of negative experiences with men and the sort of threat that's over all of us. So to me, it's like, this shows how much women believe in men and love men, that we're willing to do it regardless. Does that make sense?

Monica Padman
Yeah, I think so. So I'm afraid of men, but I still will take a risk with them because I love them. Yeah. So I think the truth is you would pick the man. No, I would pick the bear, but I'll still.

Liz Plank
I'm willing to put up with the risk of being hurt by a man to connect with a man. Women have been asking their husbands if they have a daughter. Like, who would you rather be in forest, be alone with our daughter? A man or a bear? And that's when you see a lot of men, again, do the, like, actual calculation.

Monica Padman
Yeah. Anyway, I love this kind of stuff. You don't think you could just, like, manipulate him, the man? Yeah. How would you manipulate.

I mean, also, I guess, like, are we trying to get out, or are we just, like, there? Cause if we're just there, I feel like we'd just be like, I guess we're together now. Oh, you would? Your chances of survival are higher with another person in general. So I think you could sort of logically be like, time to team up now.

Like, if you're stranded on an island. Do you mean sexually? I guess probably. Okay. I'd probably be like, if I'm literally here forever, this is the person.

Wow. And then they probably wouldn't be assaulting me because I just like, we'll be together now. You're my would see husband. A lot of people were in relationships, assault each other. But you would be consenting?

Yeah, I would just like, be like, I'm consenting now to this scenario. Okay, so you would force yourself to like him? I think. Yes. Self manipulation a little bit too.

It is to, like, survive. I mean, a lot of people self manipulate to survive. Pretty much all of us do, 100%. That's a way to do it. And what would be a non starter?

Liz Plank
What would you not be able to force yourself to, like if he was.

What if he has the smell?

God, you'd probably, like, start liking. That's what I. I do wonder that if you made a full decision, like, this is who it's gonna be. There's no other options in this life at that point. You don't even wanna be with someone.

Monica Padman
You have to. So it is different than our life, obviously. So I bet you would start liking the smell. I bet the pheromones would start just melding together. Wow.

We could probably do that in life. Just make a hard decision. Should we pretend like, we're in the woods when we're on dates. It's just hard because there's much more than just that one person. It's true.

Liz Plank
I mean, I've really tried, you know, this. I really put in the effort to try and like people that I don't like. Yeah, well, it's hard when you can be without someone. Like, we don't need people for survival. I mean, we need people, but we don't need a partner for survival.

Monica Padman
In 2024, Los Feliz. Yes, but 2024 would only one other being. That's a different scenario. I mean, it's sort of like how it used to be in the olden days. You just couldn't divorce.

Liz Plank
Like, you were stuck with what you hated, and you're like, all right, let's do this. Have you thought any more about our date since we've been on it so much? Do you have updates? Do you have updated thoughts? A lot of people were excited about it.

I feel like a lot of people were texting. I got annoyed after a while. I was like, I don't really wanna. I've already told it that story. I agree.

Monica Padman
So many texts in the morning. How was it? How was it? How was it? I just wanted to, like, send everyone a video.

Liz Plank
But no, it was sweet. Okay. So I did learn new intel. Ooh. Which I thought was sweet or, like, funny, which is that the LinkedIn guy, the main guy.

Not the main guy, but your guy, the guy who found the other. He went to dinner a few days before our double date with my friend who set us up. Oh. And he said that he was, like, nervous. Like, basically, my friend was like, did you think the other guy was good looking?

Were you into the other guy? And I was like, no, I was so into LinkedIn guy. And she was like, oh. Because he said that he was nervous that you would like his friend more. Oh, interesting.

Monica Padman
So, okay, that answers a question a little bit. Cause we were wondering, what have they thought about? And it also is sort of similar to how we felt, which we were like, are we gonna be competing? Is there gonna be this weird energy? And so that's funny.

Liz Plank
I just never think that guys. I don't know. I know you don't give them very much credit, and in some ways, you give them way too much credit. 100% accurate. I never do it when it's right and it's ruining my life.

Monica Padman
But it's good because now we learned that piece. That's so. I thought that was funny. And then he's traveling. He's like, I'll text you when I get back from my trip.

Liz Plank
Would love to hang out again. Great. So I'm waiting for the text, but I'm confident. No, that's great. So that's where we are.

Monica Padman
That's where we're at. And do you have updated thoughts? I have updated thoughts in the sense where I've been, like, is Monica gonna want to see the other guy? Are we all hanging out again? Right?

These are great. What are we doing? What are your updated thoughts? I don't have that many. I mean, I did the next day think, do I wanna see that other guy again?

And I'm kind of neutral on it. Yeah. And because of the way this all was arranged, I don't have access to that person. So I'd have to, like, we'd have to go through some channels to do it. That hurdle alone, because I don't really want to jump it, to me, is sort of telling.

But if we're all hanging out again, it'll be happy to chat with him more. I just am not like, oh, my gosh, I really want to keep talking. But he was great. But, yeah, yeah, that was that update. And just that.

I think I really liked that. That is how I was perceiving all of it. At no point was I, like, could I partner up with this person. Because I do really think that's the best way to go on a first date, is not have that ruminating thought the whole time, which is what we all do. But this allowed.

And again, specifically this, where I was, like, I was coming as your friend and he was coming as his friend. If I was in your position, it would have been a little harder. More pressure or different pressure. Exactly. A little more pressure.

But for me, it was zero. And that was really nice. Oh, I see you already had this sort of setup y thing happen. So there was a little bit more pressure on the two of you to sort of, like, see if you liked each other. And it was like, and we'll just, like, bring our buddies, which is less.

It's, like, great if for some reason, we just really hit it off like crazy. But other than that, it's just fucking. Oh, okay. Cause, yeah, afterwards, I was like, when we recorded, you were like, I didn't even think about it. And I was like, wait, how did you not think about it?

Liz Plank
But you're right. We have different roles. Like, there's a little bit different. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Wow.

And so being. Would you prefer being in the role of the setupee or the set? Upper. I liked the position, but also, if I was getting set up, I think I would maybe also like this. It's different.

Monica Padman
It's different. One thing I did not bring up in the episode, but I think is huge about what we did is you could have things said about yourself that you would normally not say about yourself that are, like, braggy, but the other person says it, and that is such a hack. Cause obviously there are things that would be cringy to bring up about yourself, but it's kind of nice for other people to know it. You have a hype woman. Yeah.

Like, built in. Yeah. Cause there was a couple times. Well, they had said that they had been to India. That's how it kind of started.

They had said they'd been to India. And then Liz said, oh, Monica just went to India. And then they said, where did you go? And I was like, well, it wasn't. It was for work.

And so it wasn't very luxurious. We went to. And I was, like, listening to cities, and then you were just like, she went to India with Bill Gates. And they were like, oh, whoa. And, like, that is obviously, I wouldn't have said that.

Liz Plank
Right. But I was kind of glad you did because it did clarify some of what I was trying. Yeah. So, like, little things like that. And then I think you had said something, and I was like, oh, Liz wrote a book.

Monica Padman
That part's nice. And they were doing that for each other as well. Yes. LinkedIn guy was doing it for his friend. Okay.

Liz Plank
Got it. I noticed it a couple times. Oh, that's sweet. I was like, this is nice. Yeah, it's friends.

Monica Padman
Friends. But things you are self conscious about saying, you don't have to say. Right. I think it's the best way to do it. That was the best date I've been on in all of a.

Do you want me to stop by your second date? Yes. I just pop my head in, hey. I'll be sad when you're not there. But I also know it's, like, it would be weird if I was like.

I'm bringing Monica again. I mean, I think we could all hang out again, but if you're interested, you should do a couple dates solo at this point. Okay. What are you guys gonna do, do you think? I don't know.

Tennis? I hope so. He likes to do yoga. And then I thought, we should go to yoga. And I was like, no.

Liz Plank
Cause sweaty yoga. Hot yoga. Hot yoga is too hot. And you're spreading. Guys, I've done it.

And as soon as I am in it. I'm like, why did I do this? You can go to yoga with your. Boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife. Really?

Monica Padman
I think you kind of need to be at that level. Molly and Eric go to hot yoga. It's really cute. That's adorable. I think that's so sweet.

Liz Plank
But not when you're trying. A core is not the best. But I don't know. I'll see. He lives on the west side, so that's, like, the big question is, like, where do we go?

Monica Padman
We did have to drive far away for our date. We did, and they did, too. But still. I know. Anywho, okay.

Yeah. So those are sort of updated thoughts. So I dropped you off after we recorded, and I got home, and I was about to start my period. I was starting it. I started it since then, but, you know, it was coming.

It was like, the next day. It was. So I did feel a little. Maybe it's just cause our adrenaline was so high. It was that I did feel a little down.

Liz Plank
Oh. And I was trying to sit with y. And I really think it was probably just mainly chemical. Like, again, we were, like, on all this adrenaline, then it's over. And it was over.

Monica Padman
And then I was kind of like, it's over and there's nothing. A little bit. Not that there was nothing. We had, like, a great night, but I don't know. I would see why that would happen.

Liz Plank
Because now I get to. I mean, I got to continue. Yeah. And unless you take the step and do it and want to do it, it is like, oh, that happened. And then now it's over.

It's like the morning after Christmas. Yeah, but we can go on another double date. We can. I would do it again. Or you could hang out with that guy again.

Monica Padman
I could. It wasn't like, sparks. Yeah. Which is sometimes not. Which sometimes it's not, but, yeah.

I don't know. I hate that part of, like, when people are like, you're not supposed to feel sparks. It's confusing. Like, how many sparks can you feel? Like, solid?

About like two and a half. Yes. Cause I felt some little sparks, and I was, like, a little high off of that, and then I was like, is that bad? Little sparks, I think, is good. It's fine.

But I do think it can, depending on our tendencies. I don't think it's great when it's like, oh, my gosh, I'm dead. I'm head over heels after 2 hours of generic talking. But it's like. But, like, a little.

I get, like, I get this sense of, yeah, like, he's great. I definitely wanna see him again. He seems really, really cool. That's great. And, ooh, like, this is exciting, but full.

Like, I really like him is, I think, where to dial back a tiny. Bit, but then I will sober up and believe that. And then I'll watch the idea of you. Oh, my God. I can have this.

Liz Plank
This insane. Did you watch the whole movie? I surprisingly did. I watched it. I could not stop.

It was late, but I couldn't turn it off. They shouted out all the time, which I love. It's huge. After I started your story, I decided to watch it. Oh, yeah?

What did you think? I'm so curious. Well, you know, I'm such a rom.com girl. That's my bread and butter. Same.

Monica Padman
I love them. It was, like, very nodding hill vibes. So I enjoyed it. I'm pretty much gonna generally enjoy a romantic comedy. I mean, I didn't feel.

So you watched it and you were, like. You were excited by it. Cause I watched it and I was sad after. Oh, my God.

Liz Plank
How are you sad? I was sad. To me, it was sad. It ends so well. It ends with them being together.

Monica Padman
I know, but that's very convenient writing. Yeah. And apparently that's not how the book ends or, like, they made it better than the book, so it's based off. This person's real story, but I think the book is still an imagination. And then this is an extra level.

Liz Plank
On top of it. Exactly. Yeah. I think this woman had an encounter at Coachella, and then that was it. But then she created this book.

Monica Padman
Yeah. And then the movie. But for me. Yeah. What the takeaway is, like, sometimes you just can't have what you want, but she literally can't, what, five years later?

And, I mean, I'm not saying. Cause I'm not watching that. And then I'm not taking that as literal. I'm just, like, feeling the vibe of the whole thing. And my takeaway in general, after seeing something like that, is life is hard.

Sometimes things just don't work out, or you can't have what you want, or timing is bad. Ageism. And if the genders were reversed, there would be no problem. Yeah. They would have no obstacle.

Yeah. Less. Well, okay, if people don't know. The premise is a woman ends up taking her daughter to Coachella. She's 40 or 39, and she goes to the bathroom, and she accidentally goes into someone's trailer, and it's the guy from a boy band, and he's 24.

So they have this kind of, like, little interaction, and she then starts dating him, basically. And it gets really complicated. Cause he's a huge star. And then this age factor, and it's interesting.

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What did you think? Did you like it? At first? I didn't. I was like, this is so every backstreet boys song that has led me astray.

Liz Plank
This whole idea that I will do anything for you. Everything I've ever done is about you. You are my everything. That is such a. Yeah, that's bad.

And it's often not gonna happen. No, that is not gonna happen. And I've dated a musician, and, like, there were parts of it that I just was, like, that would never. Or maybe not never, but in my case, it was like the opposite experience of feeling, like, the least important, where he, like, sings a lyric about her and then, like. So I was a little bit rolling my eyes.

Or even the fact that he clearly has never stopped thinking, like, five years later, he's singing this song about her. Yeah. That's not reality. No, no, but it's a movie. Exactly.

But I love the fantasy, and I, 100%, for most of my life, believed in the fantasy, and it still fills me with a lot of giddiness. That's why I couldn't stop watching. I was like, oh, my God, this is my. Not kryptonite, but my crack, maybe. I love this kind of stuff, but I know it's not.

It's not real. I legitimately used to think that that was possible. Yeah. That's six months. Okay.

Monica Padman
I was gonna say, you're right. If I was susceptible to that feeling, that would be probably a hard movie. But I guess that's sort of what I mean when I turn it off. I'm not thinking about the specifics of the movie when you're saying it ended happy. Yeah, sure.

The movie ended happy. But my takeaway about life and relationships is. It's hard. Okay, I see that. So is your takeaway.

I could have it. No. Well, for me, it's like, I can have this 24. It's like watching oceans eleven, where I'm like, oh, my God, this is so exciting. Like, oh, if I was in this, this would be.

Liz Plank
But I know that that's not gonna happen to me. It's like that. Or watching reality tv. Show about a super rich family, and it's, like, fun to see. I mean, I don't even.

It's kind of a weird thing for me. Like wish fulfillment. Yeah, wish fulfillment, but not, oh, this is possible for me or something I should try and achieve. Well, that's the other thing, is it was sexy. Like, he's so sexy and she is too.

Yes. And they had good chemistry, but I wasn't wanting what she had in no world. Sorry, sorry, 24 year old. You're great. You're gonna have a great life.

Monica Padman
But I'm not interested at all in getting swept off my feet by a 24 year old. I couldn't really click into that other than, like, ooh, this is, like, sexy and sweet and, oh, God, it's hard. And, ah. I mean, I've been exploring with younger men. 24 is intense, but there are scenes where she's, like, hanging out with his friends and that palpable.

Liz Plank
And I have definitely been there. And again, I felt that that was well expressed of just, you can be super connected with someone, but then you're in their life and their environment, and suddenly you're like, right, these are children. Yes. Well, that's another reason the double date thing is helpful. You immediately get to see them with people.

Monica Padman
They're actually interacting with such a good. Person, and they probably got way more information about us from, like, who I'm, you know, that we're friends and how we are friends. Like, I loved how they were friends. Yeah, me too. You know, their backstory was cool.

Liz Plank
There was, like, something pretty deep about their friendship, which I felt like was attractive. Yeah. Okay. Also, there's a part in the movie. During the movie, she's wearing this blue bikini, and then she's at the pool with him and his friends.

Monica Padman
And so she, like, gets out her blue bikini, and then she looks out the window, and she sees all these young girls in hot bathing suits. And so she puts the blue bikini away and puts on a one piece. And I don't know, maybe this is why I was sad, because I'm like, I'm old as fuck because I want that one piece so bad. And it's so much cuter than the two piece blue thing. I agree.

It was so cute. I was, like, googling trying to find this bathing suit. I found it. Obviously, I found it. How did you find it?

Liz Plank
Finally. Okay. It's on screen for 35 seconds. I know. I took so many pictures of it, and I was googling, and I was like, ann Hathaway, one piece.

Monica Padman
The idea of you nothing was coming up. But then I texted Nicole, our stylist friend. I sent her the picture, and I was like, I want this. Do you know what brand it is? And she texted me this morning with the brand.

Liz Plank
Wow, that is some expert investigators. They don't have that style print combo, though. They have the print in a different style and the style in a different print. So I haven't taken action yet. Cause I want the one she has.

Monica Padman
It doesn't exist. They probably made it for her. But anywho, so I was like, fuck. And again, I don't know if this is age or probably not age. This is just life.

I was like, she's hotter. So much hotter. I don't wanna compare hotness, but it was sort of weird that she was looking and feeling like less than. Although ageism is a thing, and I get it. I think this happens a lot when you get older.

You look at younger people and you just immediately think they're hotter. But objectively, no. Cause she comes out in this, like. Big shawl or something like Jean Shawl. Which was also kind of cute.

Liz Plank
It was cute. Again, she was more stylish and cooler. Oh, my God. Her outfits in the whole movie, she's wearing the ro. She was so much cooler, really, than those young girls.

Monica Padman
And so it was kind of hard to get on board with her feeling bad. But you know what's so funny about that is they subtly do that the entire movie where. Well, not to spoil her, but, like, well, I know at this point, I mean, her ex husband is older and, like, just comes off as, like, less attractive. Like, he's an attractive actor, but in the movie, like, they just dress him older, and then he cheats on her with this younger woman. Basically.

Liz Plank
I think they do it a little bit on purpose where she is older but hotter, more stylish. She is defeating that sort of stereotype of what you would expect of that hierarchy. And that's kind of part of it. But I agree with you that then in those moments, you're like, dude, you look cooler than them. Which is, again, probably true in many cases.

We just make those assumptions because of the way that we think as a society. And to be fair, what's cute and cool to me is maybe not cute and cool to a young 24 year old guy. Sure. Like the row and this really cute one piece bathing suit. That was so flattering.

I agree. I mean, I didn't google the bathing suit, but I agreed that she was so. I mean, she's. I know that's stunning in the movie, every scene is stunning. She's also my style icon.

She is. She's been my style icon for the last year and a half. Not recently, not full. Cause obviously, Mary Kate and Ashley are my style icons, but she is a style icon for me. She's had, like, a renaissance.

Monica Padman
She has. She got a new stylist a couple years ago, Erin Walsh. And she's been killing it ever since. Wow. Killing it.

Liz Plank
I mean, she kills it in this movie. The Met gal is today. It is. I know. I wanted to ask you about it.

What do you do? I don't have plans. I didn't plan it. I didn't plan a party. Should we watch it together?

Monica Padman
How do we watch it? I don't. I think there's nothing on the Internet. I think it's just. Oh, you don't watch it?

I tried to watch it, and it didn't really work out, and so I just looked at pictures. Wow. For someone who's so obsessed with the Met gala, I would think you're. I know, but I don't know how to watch it in a good way. Well, there's live streams, but then you have to listen to all the conversations.

Liz Plank
I don't know. I, like, hate. Watch it a little bit. Look, I think it's hard. Live shit is hard.

Monica Padman
I've never done it, so I can't sit on anyone who's doing it because there's a lot of moving parts that are happening on a red carpet, and I think it can get discombobulated quick. So, you know. God, now I'm excited, but I have a lot to do. I mean, what time does that start? I think on the early.

Liz Plank
I think it's at five eastern or something like that. So for us, 530 eastern time. So it's 230. The red carpet? Yeah.

Monica Padman
Oh, God. Okay. Because the actual galas. Right, exactly. That's not a thing.

Well, what do you mean? There's no cameras inside. Oh, right. Exactly. Yeah.

I did put a story out, asking people for first date questions before our date. You did? And people gave great questions. Really good ones. We didn't really ask any, unfortunately.

Cause it got loud. I think that's why. Okay. It was a little too loud. Cause I don't remember a lot.

Liz Plank
Me too. Okay. I was gonna say, like, was it because I was nervous? I couldn't hear a lot. I couldn't hear a lot, too.

Monica Padman
I know. Cause I was like, have fun on your dad's trip. It's like, maybe that's not happening. Like, maybe I. A few people said, like, asked me questions about them, and I was like, I know we talked about that, but I don't know the answer because it was loud.

Liz Plank
It was loud. The acoustics were not ideal. Okay. But I do want to read a few of the first date questions. They were great.

Monica Padman
Yeah. Well, Kristen sent one. She said craft or velveeta, which I thought was funny. Okay, this is from nobody's listening. Right?

My favorite podcast. I really do like this one. If you could go on a two week vacation anywhere. Unlimited budget. Where are you going?

Liz Plank
I love that. What would you pick? I would go to Tokyo. I've always wanted to go, and it's so far and so expensive, but I think I would go to Tokyo. Or, like, a super full, luxurious resort.

Resort beach kind of thing. I think those would be the two. What about you? I want to go to Winemon. Yeah.

Monica Padman
I've never been to one. I don't know which one, but, yeah. Somewhere remote and cool. Or Paris. Oh, fun.

Liz Plank
I love Paris. I also love London, and I love New York. Oh. Like, an all expensive trip in New York could also be really fun. So fun.

Monica Padman
Okay, let's see. Oh, my God. I didn't even. I didn't see this. What?

Liz Plank
Eric. What is wrong with him? Oh, my God. He wrote various questions on theme of poop eating. If you had to eat someone's poop on the show friends, whose shit would you eat?

Monica Padman
Also definitely ask if they had to. Would they? Oh. Oh. This is, like, within the pod.

This, like, horrific question that we have all discussed, and it's disgusting. Is awful. I can hardly. I don't even know if I should even bring it up. What is it?

If you had to, and not in a trauma way, we have to separate this out. Okay. Would you either suck your dad's. Oh, God. Or eat your mom's oh, yeah.

This is a conversation that, unfortunately, we've had many times in the group. Where do you fall? It's horrific. I mean, it's all so bad, but, like.

Liz Plank
But mom, 100%. Yeah. Cause it's not sexual. Right. And mostly it breaks down this way.

Monica Padman
Right. Where the genders kind of break down like that. Oh, interesting. Yeah. Like, the guys end up picking their dads.

Cause same thing. Even though nothing sexual about. Oh, the guys have to go down on the mom. Right. Oh, okay, I see.

Liz Plank
Exactly. Okay, got it. I thought the guys wanted to. Okay. I was like, wow.

Monica Padman
No, they do what we just did, like, reluctantly pick their same gender. Right.

Liz Plank
And then what's the poop eating? Oh, just various just talking about eating poop. Well, no, he's saying, what if I had asked that?

I mean, that would have just been like a hard pivot. It's funny. It is funny. Okay, no, the poop eating is. If you had to eat someone's poop on the show friends, whose shit would you eat?

Monica Padman
It's kind of a good question. That's a really good question.

Liz Plank
Maybe Monica's, because it would be the most clean. But she's a chef. She is a chef. So she has to try a lot. Of food after she eats the Maklett.

But then probably Jennifer Ann. Yeah, I know. It's so annoying that we're all just picking Rachel. Cause she's so perfect. But I bet hers is too vegetarian.

Yeah, it'll be like soft and. Yeah. Ew. I might pick Ross. Wow.

I like that. Well. Cause, you know, as I get older, he's the hottest one to me. Interesting. He's become hot.

He's always been hot. No, Ross as like a general. When you're young. No one liked Ross. It was like a whole thing.

Monica Padman
And again, irony that really. He's the most put together. I mean, he's a dork. But dorks are cool. Dorks are cool.

Liz Plank
He's older. Yeah. He has his own apartment. Yeah, he has a good job. And he's tall and smart and hot.

I mean, they're all hot. That was the thing too. Of like, Chandler being like, not hot. And, like, being a loser. You're like, Chandler was so funny and adorable.

Monica Padman
Yeah, exactly. I would have totally dated Chandler. Yeah, I would have dated. I wouldn't have dated Joey. Me neither.

Liz Plank
Yeah, me neither. I don't feel safe around Joey. I would have been best friends with him. Yeah, of course. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. Let's see if there's any. Oh, I liked this one last cry. That's a really good one.

We asked that one on man enough. Oh, you do? We do. And it's just a good. It's a.

These questions. What I like about it is that they're not related to your job or, like, what you do. You know? Exactly. They're not boring.

You're getting to know a person. Yeah. Okay. Oh. Have you ever wondered if this is all just a simulation?

That's a good one. That would have been a good one as well. Yeah. People, we got a lot of great first aid questions. Yeah, there's a popular post.

Well, people have wonderful. You know, people have insight to help us. They're here to help us. Yeah. And I appreciate that.

Monica Padman
Okay. My friend Ashley texted, and she said, what stresses you out or what ruffles you? That gets into the territory that I'm into, which is what your trauma, which I try not to do anymore. I know, but it is a good way to, like, stresses you out, can be less than our traumas. It could be, like, when people take too long in line or when people.

Are on the sidewalk. That's my current. What? They're on the side. Oh, my God.

During my runs right now. You're going on runs? Yeah, I'm back on my wogs. Wow. My wogs are a mix of walking and running.

Like, I run a couple laps, and then I walk a long lap, and I run a couple laps. I love it. Anyway, there is a group of dogs and people who take up a big, huge chunk corner of the sidewalk, and it is literally infuriating. And they don't move. No.

And I get rage in a very specific way about it. So that's what I would say. And it's not my trauma so much, but it is a pet peeve. Ruffles stress. Do you feel as infuriated if you're just walking?

Liz Plank
Cause I get that way. If they're coming in opposite directions, you're taking up the whole sidewalk and you don't move. I get infuriated. Infuriated? Yes, I have.

Monica Padman
This is, like, years long beef with the world. I don't understand why people don't understand etiquette at all. Sidewalk etiquette. Just take up your space. Not noticing that someone else is here in this world with you.

I can't. That's how I feel about. I was on hiking on Runyon. Did we say on? In?

On. That's interesting. Yeah, I was on the run at. At the Runyon. At Runyon.

Liz Plank
At Runyon. Sounds weird. We were going downhill. We were not even on the path anymore. We were talking, and I see this motorcycle going down on.

At run at Runyon and I, which. Is a lost mountain, a hiking trail. And I've gone into. I've told you these stories, probably where on bike paths in New York. When I came back from COVID all of a sudden, there were just, like, motorcycles on the Williamsburg bridge, fully going, like.

And I got into a lot of fights. Scary. Yes, because it's like a. Physically, I get so angry. And then once this guy turned around, like, I yelled at him, and then he turned around and started.

He was like, you were gonna get punched in the face if you do. And then we got into this whole thing, and I was like, I'm gonna die. Like, this is how I die. Oh. But it makes me very, very upset.

Any kind of bike related crimes or, like, not respecting the norms, the rules of the road and, like, just social norms of, like, this is so much. Was this when I was listening to one of your episodes? I feel like I was listening to you guys talk about how, like, so much of society is not actually based on laws. It's all unofficial, and we're all doing it. And, yeah, it's relying on our own individual desire to work with each other and being cooperative and cooperate.

And so when people don't do it, it makes me so mad.

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Okay, so what would you do? I've asked a few people this. What would you do in my situation about the big dog man group, if. You'Re coming in the direction and they're seeing your face, I literally go like this. I'm like.

You're doing a gesture with your hand to move. Yeah, I've done it a lot on the bike when people are in, you know, and I'll just literally, like, do it. You could run with a little whistle in your mouth. Yeah. And just whistle.

God, that was like Aaron. Aaron said get, like, a blow. Like one of those, like. Yeah, blowhorn. Like, I shouldn't take.

Exactly. I just say, excuse me, but they're not moving. They don't? No, they, like, kind of look at me every now, and they take a little step out, barely, but not enough. And then I'm just trying to maneuver in and out of it.

It's so annoying. I'm gonna say something controversial. Say it. I don't run as much now, but I've been a runner for most of my life. I think runners have to adapt to people who are walking, not the other way around.

Liz Plank
I know, I'm sorry, but not walking. If you're walking. No, if you're both walking, you're on equal footing. No, no, no. They're not walking.

They're running. They're standing. They're just standing there for an hour. They've decided that that's their hangout spot, is the sidewalk. They're not walking together in a group.

Monica Padman
They're planted there for the hour. Literally. I bet they say, like, from six to seven, let's hang out on the corner. That's what it is. No, you're in the way.

Exactly. Okay. No. Illegal. Yeah.

And I agree about. Well, I'm half agree with you about the walking and the running. I still think, like, why are you walking in the middle? Walk on the side so other people can go. I don't understand the idea that you can take up the entire sidewalk.

Liz Plank
When people are walking on the sidewalk, they shouldn't walk in the middle of the sidewalk. I don't think so. I think you should walk on the right or left side, whatever side you're on. You shouldn't just be, like, strolling about with no awareness, just like we do cars. You walk on the right side of the.

But are there lanes on the sidewalk? I didn't know that there were lanes. Well, again, like you just said, there's lanes unofficially. And when people are walking opposite directions, you should create lanes. Yes.

If they see you coming. But if they're behind you, how are they? That's why, in general, I think you just take up a lane. Exactly. Because you don't know who's behind you.

Right. It's just a way to be conscientious in the world. Yeah. So don't walk in the middle of the sidewalk. Do you not walk in the middle of the sidewalk?

Monica Padman
I stay to a side normally. Oh, my God. I didn't know this was a thing. I'm probably ruining everyone's doing what I hate, but I walk really fast, so no one's ever passing me. But anyway, stick to a side if you can.

There are always scenarios. Of course. You don't have to beat yourself up, but it's a good way to be. And don't just have a party in the middle of the sidewalk. And if you are going to, go ahead, but you have to move when people are coming, you don't own the sidewalk.

I just. I can't.

Okay. All right, let's do some questions. Ooh. Okay. This is timely.

Liz Plank
Okay. Great. Feeling the pressure of tweakments at 30. This is from re. I hope I pronounced that right.

Monica Padman
Hi. Liz and Monica love synced and your wonderful and honest conversations. Thank you for the work you do. I'm turning 30 this summer. I'm mostly excited to enter this new chapter in my life.

However, I've started to notice some early signs of aging on my face. I love wrinkles, and I think they're beautiful. But I've started to notice that I'm developing a double chin, and I'm really struggling with it. I've known I'm probably predisposed genetically to a double chin since my mom's side has it. And it gets worse as they age.

Despite weight being quite consistent, I started going down a massive rabbit hole of plastic surgery procedures to tweak mints with Botox and fillers. It's all made me quite anxious. I really don't love the idea of going under the knife, and I'm scared of ending up pursuing a face style that so many women seem to have on social media. I love my face, but I also feel like I don't look like myself with my double chin. This has made me realize the pressures and standards women face as they age.

I think part of it is also knowing how my mom is aged and knowing I want to do something to combat losing my jawline in such a noticeable way. Did you guys ever deal with this pressure as you hit 30? Do you deal with it now? Do you have any tips on how to deal with the pressure? Be proactive about problem areas.

There's a side of me that wants to age naturally, but I also know that I want to keep the integrity of my face and my looks. I know a lot of people get treatment or work done to age more gracefully and naturally, and it shouldn't feel like a huge stigma. Still, I also feel like it's a thin line to tread to aging gracefully and looking like a completely different version of yourself. Also, when someone ages beautifully and has work done, it's impossible to know because women feel so much shame and telling people, I wish it could all be more transparent. Ps.

Monica, your skin looks absolutely stunning in your recent New York trip pics. I hope you drop a Vogue skincare routine one day. I also hope I drop a Vogue skincare routine, and I appreciate that comment. I'm in a not a great skincare place, so I feel very happy about that comment. And I will say that I'm using Kevin Aucoin makeup currently, and it's nice.

Liz Plank
Love it. Yeah. So that's the answer to that. It does look glowing. Thank you.

Monica Padman
Well, and I'm on a new regimen. TBD on if I like it, of skincare regimen. Okay. It's new, and I'm trying it. Anywho, okay, I feel like I wrote this question.

This is 100% me. You know, I almost got Kybella, if anyone's listening to armchair expert. Also, everyone knows I almost got Kybella. I didn't get it, but now I might get chin filler, and I feel all of this. I don't want to, really, but I do want to, and I agree.

I want to just, like, keep my face. My face. Ugh. It's complicated. What do you think?

Liz Plank
I think you can do whatever you want. Of course you can do whatever you want. Yeah, but it's, like, maintaining the balance of you. Cause I'm with her. Like, I know what she means.

Monica Padman
There's a style of face that a lot of women get, and great. Like, there's no judgment on those people. I think. Awesome. Everyone do what you want to do, but I don't want that.

Liz Plank
Yeah. And I do think it's a slippery slope. Like anything. The best advice I got, so when I was turning 30, I was 31 or 32, and my makeup artist was like, yeah. Brought up for me was like, my frown line, is that what that's called?

Monica Padman
Like, this in your unibrow but without, like, there's a crease? Yeah, there was just, like, a significant crease. And because, again, I was just seeing myself on camera a lot. I was like, oh, I like, I'm seeing that a lot, and I don't like it. And she was like, yeah, you can get Botox.

Liz Plank
She was like, get Botox. Don't get filler. Which was her advice, which I like to just transmit. It's a subjective perspective. But I do think Botox is not a big deal.

And again, I'm not, like, an expert in any way, but fillers are just more. No more can go wrong. I'm sure there are. And there are many risks to all of these things, but a bad botox story, like, you don't really hear a bad filler story. There are many.

I mean, and there are many good ones. Oh, sure, sure. No, but I mean, bad botox, you can have too much. Then you just can't move your face at all. And that looks.

It looks weird. And the first time I got it, I was like, I want the least amount. And you communicate that, and you go to someone that you feel also reflects that and understands that. And usually they are. They know what they're doing.

And especially for me, she was like, I want you to still be able to. You're expressing yourself on camera and stuff like that. And so I went to someone who literally, like, I knew was doing kind of the genre that I was looking. For, which is like, do your research on the people. Yes.

And start small. And you can just stop doing it. With botox, but you can also dissolve filler. That's why I'm scared of Kybella. Cause you can't dissolve it.

Monica Padman
It's just like, it is what it is, and if it goes wrong, it goes wrong. But with the filler, at this point, you can dissolve. So that's something to also keep in mind. If you try something and you're like, oh, fuck, you can dissolve it. Yeah.

And I think that can be a little painful, but it's like, worth it. Sure. Obviously I think you're going into it with all of the right thoughts. And I think the judgment part to me though, is like, yeah, who cares? We had that conversation about everything.

Liz Plank
We had that conversation about, remember when it was like, can you be a feminist if you wear lipstick, if you wear makeup? Right, right. And so modern, you know, technologies when it comes to what you can do have progressed. And so I think we still need to be careful about shaming women who care about their appearance in a society that literally values our appearance and rewards us or punishes us if we don't. And again, that's not to say that you have to do it and that you should keep up with those standards, but I think it's so weird to then punish women for, like, participating in it.

And I think the best way to do it is in the way that's balanced where you're like, am I doing this for myself? Why am I doing this? How far am I willing to go? I'm not going to put myself into debt to do this. And I think about this part too, where we were talking about it the other day, and I was like, there's this other thing.

I was like, oh, I could do this. And you were like, this part of your body is so great. Like, you don't have to. And that's when I realized, oh, this is where maybe it's a slippery slope and I need to stop because I don't really need to do anything to that part. And that's just enhancing, enhancing, enhancing.

And that's how you end up not just going too far, I think financially and in other ways, but also it. Looks worse or it just doesn't look like you anymore at all. And I think last thing is, thirties is a good time to do it. I think what's a little worrying is younger teenagers, they don't even have their face yet. Exactly.

There's a whole trend of like, Gen Z look older than millennials. And part of the hypothesis is that they're getting work done. And yeah, work done still looks like work done. It has a look. It does.

And so if you're doing it too young, so that's where I would not draw a line. But I think that's where it gets, okay, this is not necessary and even kind of an intrusive thing. And if you start that early, then that's where you get to a point where you're doing so much by the time that you're, you know, balance, I guess. I think that's right. And I definitely understand looking in the mirror or seeing a picture or video, whatever, and just really not liking what you see.

Monica Padman
And more than that, knowing, like, what she said here, that doesn't look like me anymore. Like, this is changing on me, and I want it to just go back to what it was, not change something completely about myself. So, yeah, I think maybe I would start with Botox. If you're already looking into Botox, that does seem to be, like, a good way to start. And 95% of my friends have Botox.

It's not a big deal. Start small if you want to. If you want to. And your face will change. That's the thing.

Liz Plank
Like, I don't remember which celebrity was talking about this, but she was like, your face does also change with age. That's also normal, you know? Yeah, it is. And beautiful. Like, it'll evolve and look like I look different than I did in my twenties.

I'll look at photos, and I'm like, wow. Like, there are definitely things that are different about my face, but, you know, we have to embrace that. And that's fun. That's the fun part, too. Yeah.

Monica Padman
Okay. Do you pee in pools? This is from Beatrice. I need to know, do you guys pee in pools? Please discuss all types of pools.

Backyard, public gym, pool party, pools, etcetera. Please help me settle this debate with my friends. Love you both. This is great. So good.

Done it. But I don't make a habit of it. Some people, every time they're in a pool, they pee. Is that you? I used to, yeah.

Liz Plank
And I became a lifeguard. And then I learned more about, you know. What'd you learn? So I lived in pool. You know, I was synchronized swimming.

I was always in the water, so I would do it. And again, I think when you're young, I don't know, you just do it. But, yeah. Becoming a lifeguard, I just learned more about the chemical importance of, like, water cleaning. Like, just how important it is for the water to be clean and how things can be really transmitted in water.

Like, even when it's not pee, when it's just, like, sunscreen or. A lot of people have been sweating. Like, you see the water. We often had to close the pool in afternoons because the water would get so clouded with sweat and pee. Ew.

That you couldn't see the bottom. Cause there's a test. There's no chlorine in yours. Fully chlorine. But the chlorine can't kill everything.

Like, that's the thing. And the more chlorine is killing things, the more cloudy it gets. So that means the more things there are, like. And so there's a test. There's a twelve foot section of the pool where people can dive and stuff like that.

And the test to know if you keep it open or not is that there's a big black drain at the bottom. And if you don't see the drain, you have to close that part. And very often we had to close it because people would. So that's when I was, like, a little bit more aware. Aware.

But I'll pee in the ocean every time. Okay, almost. Cause I don't know where I'm gonna find a bathroom again. Right. So I actually.

Monica Padman
I came to peeing in the pool later in life. I never peed in the pool. Not a thing I would have ever done. And then I guess I felt uptight. I'm like, everyone pees in the pool.

So I tried it. So I've done it. Did you like it? I liked not having to go get out of the pool. Yeah.

But I didn't enjoy the sensation, necessarily. But I did like the convenience.

But I'm never doing it again after I heard that. That's disgusting. Ew. It made me just realize. And I don't want people to.

Liz Plank
Well, maybe I shouldn't say it, but when there's a lot of kids in a pool, I just. It's like, don't get in the pool. Public pool. Like, don't. Like, I don't fuck or, like, I don't put my head in.

Monica Padman
Well, I never put my head in. You don't? No. Cause I don't like swimming. Right.

Liz Plank
Well, then you're fine. Cause, like, whatever. Or it's not a big get in my vagina. Yeah, that's true. I mean, no, things don't get in your vagina.

They're around it, but it doesn't go in. Well, how do you know? Cause that's why we don't get a period. Like, it stops. Like, there's nothing.

Monica Padman
What do you mean, we don't get our periods? You know that your period stops when you're swimming, right? What? You did not know this. What do you mean?

Liz Plank
You're so cute. What? Don't act like everyone knows this. Everyone knows this. I bet Rob knows this.

Okay, I don't know what you're talking about. No one knows. Text any woman you know. I'm going call. She knows it.

Monica Padman
Who should I call? I'm gonna. Oh, Callie's at work. Should I call Laura again? She knows a lot of stuff.

Actually, she might be a good person.

Can we find out if it's true? First, I couldn't put on a tampon, and I had to go on synchronized swimming meets, and I would just go with my period because I knew I won't have it in the water. No, no. How do you reach the morning? Damn it.

Yeah. It says it can be enough water pressure of a leg or pool could be enough to prevent menstrual flow. It doesn't go. It stops. No.

Liz Plank
Swear to God. I can't believe you don't know this. Hi. Hi. That was so weird.

Monica Padman
It just went away. Oh, no. You're on air again.

And I have a question, because Liz thinks everyone knows this piece of information, and I want to know if you know it. And you know a lot of stuff, so do you know that if you're in a pool or, like, a lake, a water environment, that your period stops? No, thank you. What? Thank you.

Liz Plank
I didn't. But what do you mean, it stops? Exactly. I guess the pressure makes it not flow. Ow.

Oh, okay. It doesn't stop your cycle, but it stops the flow. You won't bleed in water. You won't bleed in water. She says, if you're from your vagina, if you're submerged.

Monica Padman
Yeah. Oh, isn't that funny? Because I feel like so many people are like, I can't swim the ocean. I'm gonna attract sharks, right? No.

Liz Plank
Again, one drop can attract a shark, and so people are worried about that, but you're not gonna get fully, like, your flow stops. Whoa. Would it happen to, like, an open wound? No, because that's on a flow. Right.

I see. I did not know that. New information. Okay. Same.

Monica Padman
This is great. New information, but I appreciate that. I. Cause Liz was like, everybody knows this, and you know more than most people, so I feel pretty good about this. Is it possible that it's regional information from Canada?

Liz Plank
Should we ask? Is Matt there? Damn it. I guarantee he has no. Exactly.

Monica Padman
But he's also a man. Yes. Okay. This was fantastic. I think we should call two more people and get a good.

Yeah. A canadian woman. Oh, that's a good question. Let's call Emma. Oh, she's not canadian, but we'll call her.

Liz Plank
Okay. Good luck. Thank you. Bye. Godspeed.

Bye. Okay, I'm gonna try her. She's not canadian, but. And we can't have it be a synchronized swimmer. Cause that could be why you know it, cuz.

Monica Padman
That kind of makes sense. Like, that you. But I. Hi. What's up?

You're on air for synced. Oh, okay, great. I'm walking my dog outside right now. That's okay. It'll still work.

I have a question for you. Oh, because you were a swimmer, right? I was. Okay. Now, do you know this piece of information?

Liz thinks everyone knows it, and I didn't know it, so I just want to know if you know it. Do you know or not know that your period stops when you're submerged in water? I do know that, yeah. You do? Yeah.

Liz Plank
Like, you can get away with. You should always, I guess, wear a tampon in the water, but, like, it's not as dangerous. Like, you're okay in the water. What? Okay, so do you think you know that from swim team?

I think I probably do know that from swim team, yes. Because Liz was synchronized swimmer, so I think this is, like, if you're in the field. Yeah. Cause I also remember when I was around 13 being, like, nervous about first periods. Yeah.

And I think I remember the girls on the swim team being like, you don't have to worry about it here. Cause you're wearing so little in a bathing suit. Right. Yeah. I think it might have been swim team lore.

That's where I learned. Swim team lore. Wow. Okay. This makes tons of sense.

Wow. Okay. Oh, I really appreciate you weighing in and helping clear this up. Of course. Anytime, you guys.

Thanks. Bye. Okay, so it's not canadian. It's field specific. Yeah.

Monica Padman
Which makes sense if you're an expert in the field. You know that, but most people aren't. Got it. Should we do one more of someone who just, like, swims but isn't in the field? Yeah.

Callie was on swim team, so she might know it. Kristen. I can ask Kristen. Let me call her. I bet she knows.

Your call has been forwarded to voicemail. Why? It's off. Oh, maybe she's on a call. Yeah, they're on dialysis.

That's weird. What's dialysis?

Liz Plank
It says dialysis. Yeah. She never looks at it. I bet Dax would know. Why?

Because he has daughters. I don't know. We're gonna try Molly. She has a pool. She does, but she's not a swimmer, and she's ecuadorian.

Monica Padman
Why are my friends answering? I could be dead. You couldn't faint. Hi. Eve small.

Damn it. We could call Hannah. Okay. Do you think. She's not a school.

Liz Plank
She's not a swimmer. Swimmer. We should just do a game of, like, whoever friends answers our calls. We should call Amy. Amy.

Monica Padman
She has a lot of cool time. But your call has been forwarded to voicemail. Oh, my God. The person you're trying. Okay, I'm calling her.

Hi, lovely. Hi, buddy. You're on air for synced. Oh, hi. Hi.

We're settling something here. Okay. Okay. So Liz thinks that everyone knows this piece of information. And I didn't know it, and so I wanna see if you know it.

Okay. Do you know or not know that your period stops in the pool? I have been told that, and I've always believed it. Okay. Someone told you that.

And what age did someone tell you that? Ooh, good question. Like, you've known it for a long time. Yeah, as long as I can remember. That when you get in water, it kind of is like a barrier and it won't leak out.

Liz Plank
And then I think some people said, that's not true, but it's always work in my case. Okay. Wow. Wow. We have two out of three people we've called who do know.

Monica Padman
But you spent a lot of time in the pool. Yes. Did you spend a lot of time in the pool as a kid? Oh, yeah. But I think I would still wear a tiny tampon when I would go in the pool because I was nervous.

Right. But there's been plenty of times that I did it. Cause I was like, up until. But as soon as you get out, it could flow. Yes.

Liz Plank
You gotta go. Depending on your flow. Okay. That's smart. That's some important piece of information here.

Yeah. You gotta go. Yeah. So it kinda depends on, like, where you're at. Okay.

Monica Padman
Wow. This was helpful. Okay, good. This is part of a big study.

A big sink study. Exactly. Thank you for weighing in. Thank you. Of course.

Love you. Love you. Okay. Wow. All right.

Liz Plank
Well, I mean, we have to now do a poll. One more poll on social. 100%. So we find out now we really know. Okay.

Monica Padman
Love that. Did we. I mean, we definitely. Okay. When you would.

Which pools would you pee in? The bigger the pool, the less the connection to whoever owns the pool, the more I'll pee in it. Okay. So probably not. Pool party.

Pool. Pool party. Pool is risky. Yeah. Because.

Are you worried people will feel the heat? Feel the heat. It's a little disrespectful. Yeah. I'm in it now, too, because there's something about a public pool where you feel like you can swim away from it, which you don't.

Liz Plank
But if you're in a smaller pool with, like. It's like, now we're all in my pool. Like, right. And some people might get off of that. Get off on it?

Yeah. What do you mean? Like, everyone's in my pee and they don't know. Oh, yeah, I bet. I bet someone out there, I wonder many people, do I like that?

Do you like that? You know, something that other people don't know. I can see myself kind of liking it, but I also think my embarrassment outweighs that. So I wouldn't like it because I'd be too scared that people would know and then I'd be embarrassed. It would stop that.

Got it. But there's a little piece of me that might like it. Wow. But I don't know. I've never experienced that yet.

Monica Padman
Now I'm never, ever peeing in a pool. After what you told me, I don't even wanna get in a pool. I know being a lifeguard makes you. I don't want to ruin it for everybody. And maybe technologies are better now, but it's not a foolproof.

Ew. And I've seen it all. We've closed the pool for many bodily fluids. Fuck. In a pool.

Liz Plank
All of them. You can imagine. And we had to clean them up. No. Yes.

My first year working at a kiddie pool, I was 16. Ew. And I showed up at the park at 08:00 a.m. And there was a human turd in the middle of the pool. And then I was like, what do I do?

And who do I call? And they're like, no, it's you. You have to. With like a net. I don't.

I think. I don't even. Wow. I blacked it out. I don't remember what I did.

Monica Padman
Did you swim up and grab it? No, no, it was before. You have to show up and you're the one who's filling up the pool. So I couldn't fill up the pool. Filling it.

Holy shit. That's a lot of things to do. Yes. And then you put on a whole hazmat suit and you're dropping the chlorine yourself in it. It's crazy.

Oh, my. The whole system is. I don't know if that canadian or not, because I don't. I've never heard this. Maybe again, the system is better now, but 15 years ago, it was hand held chlorine in a kiddie pool, not in the main pool.

So you just like, jumped into this, like, empty basin and there was poop there? Yeah. Oh, I saw it. I started seeing it from far away. You notice it?

Oh, my God. It was gross. And then, like, once this boy threw up and you could see the hot dogs. I remember. Liz.

Liz Plank
I'm sorry. Say that. Sorry. I'm done. This is a horrible way to end.

Monica Padman
Oh, my God. Now. Okay. I can't get out of my. Sorry.

Liz Plank
Sorry. Okay. Think of the idea of you. Think of. Oh, no.

You didn't like it? Didn't make you feel good? What makes you feel good? Eating Ross's shit. Eating Ross's shit.

Monica Padman
Okay, that's better. Maybe I'll think of it as Ross. It was Ross's turt. Hot dogs. Yeah, hot dogs.

Ew. Okay, okay, enough. That's it for today. We've gone off the rails. Oh, wait, Kelly just texted me.

Weird. Weird. She just texted me. What do you think of the new skincare routine? Sim.

Liz Plank
Well, it's all connected. All right, well, love you. Don't bean pools or do it, but. Just know what you're getting yourself, know what you're getting into, and we'll see you next week. Yeah.

Bye.