Julia Gets Wise with Ina Garten

Primary Topic

This episode focuses on a candid conversation between Julia Louis-Dreyfus and renowned cook, Ina Garten, where they discuss the joys and subtleties of cooking, life lessons, and personal growth.

Episode Summary

Julia Louis-Dreyfus and Ina Garten delve into a heartfelt and humorous discussion about their experiences and philosophies surrounding food and life. They cover a range of topics from the importance of simple cooking, the role of food in nurturing relationships, to embracing aging with grace and humor. Both share personal anecdotes, illustrating how their lives have been shaped by their culinary adventures and personal relationships. Garten reflects on her transition from a White House nuclear policy analyst to a beloved cooking icon, emphasizing the joy found in simple, comforting meals. The episode is rich with laughter and insights into handling life's changes and challenges with a positive outlook.

Main Takeaways

  1. The significance of simplicity in cooking and how it enhances the dining experience at home.
  2. The impact of personal relationships on personal and career development.
  3. Embracing aging as a positive phase of life with freedom and confidence.
  4. The therapeutic and nurturing power of cooking for others.
  5. Ina Garten's journey from government to gastronomy, highlighting the courage to pursue one’s passions.

Episode Chapters

1: Introduction

Julia introduces Ina Garten, discussing her influence on home cooking and personal anecdotes. Julia Louis-Dreyfus: "Anybody hungry? You're gonna be."

2: The Essence of Simple Cooking

In-depth discussion on why simplicity in cooking is key to Garten’s philosophy. Ina Garten: "It’s about simplicity and deliciousness. Completely, 100%."

3: Life Lessons and Aging

Conversation about aging gracefully and the freedom it brings. Ina Garten: "I kind of like being 76. I get to do whatever I want to do."

4: Personal Stories and Food Memories

Sharing personal memories that highlight the emotional connection to food. Julia Louis-Dreyfus: "It's so meaningful to me to make something sweet and poignantly delicious for the people I love."

5: Closing Reflections

Reflecting on the broader impacts of their careers and personal philosophies. Ina Garten: "I think small changes over a long period of time makes a difference."

Actionable Advice

  1. Embrace simple cooking to enhance everyday meals.
  2. Value and nurture personal relationships as they are pivotal to personal growth.
  3. Approach aging with a positive mindset, focusing on the freedoms it allows.
  4. Use cooking as a means to express love and care for others.
  5. Be open to changing life paths to pursue what brings joy and fulfillment.

About This Episode

On this episode of Wiser Than Me, Julia gets enlightened by 76-year-old cook and author Ina Garten. From working on nuclear policy at the White House and operating her famous specialty food store Barefoot Contessa, to penning best-selling books and hosting hit TV shows – Ina has done it all. Her culinary influence goes beyond technique; it's about simplicity and connection. Ina shares how aging has changed her taste in food and how she deals with passive-aggressive people.

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Transcript

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

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Once in our travels, when I was a little girl of about eight, I think, when my daddy Tom was a surgeon on the hope hospital ship, we were living in Tunisia. And I remember very vividly that I was so upset with my mom because she said I had to finish my dinner before I had dessert, which made no sense at all. And there was another couple there who were working with my dad. And the woman in the couple said, well, how about I take you out for lunch, just you and me, and then you can have dessert first? And so that was very appealing, as you can imagine.

And I did. We went to lunch, and I ordered a huge hot fudge sundae. I mean, just huge. And I just gobbled that fucker up. And then when it was time to actually order lunch, well, I couldn't really order lunch because I was too full.

But I assure you of one thing, I did not learn a lesson that day. I've always been a true and deep lover of sweets and desserts. In fact, one of my earliest memories is of these peanut butter cookies that my grandma made for me. You know, the kind that have the fork imprint on them. I still have her handwritten index card with the cookie recipe.

Well, actually, I think I have it. I don't know where it is. My mom may have it, I don't know. But I love dessert so much. I don't know exactly why, other than it's so sweet and yummy, but, God, why not?

It's always been like that for me. And so, you know, when our kids were little, providing for them, obviously, this is some instinctual maternal thing. You just get this incredible joy out of your kids finishing a meal that you made for them, right? The most basic kind of nurturing. And I'm also very captive to ritual, as I think we all are, to a certain extent.

So I put great store into birthdays and making sure that both of our kids always had memorable birthdays. And so when our first son, Henry, was little, you know, just a little toddler, I was so looking forward to baking him a birthday cake. And so I asked him what kind of cake he wanted. And, I mean, honestly, he was little. He was barely even talking.

What does he know about cakes? But he was a fanciful kid. So when I said, what kind of cake do you want, Hen? And he said, orange. And this was clearly the color orange, I don't think that he had any idea that a cake could even have an orange flavor.

This was just about the look of it, you know, think about it. Just a giant orange cake. So I set about looking for an orange cake that I could make for him, and I did. I found a bundt cake made with real oranges that I then Jerry rigged into a three layer Cake. And then I concocted this cream cheese frosting to go with it.

And I shouldn't say this because, you know, it's not very, you know, farm to table of me, but I dyed the frosting orange. Not a bright orange, more sort of a peachy salmon color, so that it was aesthetically pleasing, you know. And I covered it in mandarin oranges on top. It was gorgeous. And it was a huge hit with Henry.

And I've been making that cake on his birthday ever since. And then my younger son Charlie, he requested a key lime pie. So I made him this key lime pie. I ordered the key lime juice from just one place, these guys called the Manhattan Key Lime Juice Company. And you can look it up because that's all they sell for real key lime juice, nothing else, which is just so fabulously old school.

I just love it. So I've been making that key lime pie for my Charlie for almost 25 years, and the orange cake for Henry going on 30 years now. I use fresh oranges from our own tree, so it's even better. For me, this is just the quintessence of a gesture of love. It's such a simple thing, you know, measuring, mixing, baking.

But it does take focus and concentration and exactness. And even then, it doesn't always go the way you want. You know, there's some luck and karma mixed into it, too. But, boy, it's just. It's so meaningful to me to make something sweet and poignantly delicious for the people that I love.

And I plan on doing this for the rest of my life. This little thing, or it's actually kind of a big thing because it gives me such joy and pride. It's become a sacrament, really now to me. So I guess cooking can take on a significance way beyond just being delicious and nutritious. And that's why I am so delighted today to get to talk to Ina Garten.

Hi, I'm Julia Louis Dreyfus, and this is wiser than me. The podcast where I get schooled by women who are wiser than me.

Anybody hungry? You're gonna be. Cause our guest today has been dishing out fabulous recipes and a shit ton of charm for decades. She is the barefoot Contessa, the queen of comfort cooking. Her signature bob and blue shirt are as iconic as her roasted chicken.

But it's not just about the food. Her down to earth approach has not only transformed the culinary landscape, but has also left a real mark on how real people perceive and embrace the art of home cooking. I mean, we eat roasted carrots at our house because of her. In an era full of star chefs, she claims not to be a chef, but a cook. She stands out not just for her recipes, but for her genuine connection with her audience, which has made her a cultural figure known for her warmth and authenticity.

And somehow that makes her food even more scrumptious. One iconic store, two hit tv shows, 13 best selling cookbooks, and 55 year long marriage later, our guest feels universally cherished especially by her husband, Jeffrey, but also by me. And for me, she really pretty much is up there with fresh, salty butter on warm bread. I think it's because she makes every meal feel like a cozy get together with an old friend. Now, full disclosure, I'm really just hoping to get invited to a dinner party at our house.

And I'll bring the dessert. I will. I'm so pleased to welcome the James Beard award winner and the Hamptons most notorious resident, a woman who is so much wiser than me, Ina Garten. Ina, I'm so happy to be here. I love you.

I love you. I love you. Let's just say that from the start. I love that the roast carrots are. You think of me when you think of roast chicken and roast carrots, because that's what I always say.

Ina Garten

It's about those two things. It is. It's about simplicity and delicious. Completely, 100%. You brought carrots back into my life in a very powerful way.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

So let me ask you something. Are you comfortable if we share your real age? I am. And what is your real age? My real age is 76.

And how old do you feel, Ina? Hmm. You know, I kind of like being 76. I get to do whatever I want to do. Yeah, yeah.

No b's. No. I mean, I wouldn't mind a 25 year old body. Right, right. But the rest of it, I'll take the 76.

I hear that. I love that you're completely embracing it. I feel the same way about getting older. I mean, there are aspects of being younger, physical aspects, that would be nice, but there is something very freeing about getting older. Right.

Ina Garten

Well, I feel like when we're younger, we wonder what will become of us, and when we're older, we know what's going to become of us, and it's turned out really great. Yeah, I completely hear that. And it's nice to feel. It's like boots that you've been wearing a long time. They're super comfortable, and you're.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

You feel confident in them. I think when you're younger, you feel like you have to do everything just because you're just building things, and you have to do everything that comes your way. And then when you get older, you start choosing, and you choose because it's fun, not for any other reason. Right? Well, that's right.

And I remember in doing research to talk with you, and you were saying that, Jeffrey, when you were making the decision to leave government, the White House, and you weren't sure what to do, and he said, well, just find something that's fun for you. Because he said it. For me particularly because if it's fun, I want to do it. If it's not fun, you can't get me to do it with a cattle prod. Uh huh.

I had a physics teacher when I was in high school. Mister. Coyne. Marty Coyne. And he was a wonderful teacher.

He would write at the bottom of every paper that you would turn in. He would say, have fun at all costs. Isn't that great? Yeah. And obviously that can be misunderstood, but I knew what he meant, and I've certainly applied that in my own life.

It's an incredible lens through which to make decisions. Yeah, exactly. So tell me, take me through a typical eating day for you. Like, you know, well, I mean, what'd you eat today? What have you had to eat?

Ina Garten

Well, it's pretty orderly, actually. Yeah, I want to hear, I pretty. Much have toast and coffee for breakfast. And the toast has to have good french butter on it. With shaved sea salt.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Yes. It's called bur da barat. B a r a t t e. With flaked sea salt. And it's just so delicious.

Ina Garten

And so that's what I have for breakfast. And then at exactly 1030, I have to have a cup of tea with a little honey in it. And it's not 1029. And it's not 1031. At 1030, my brain goes, bing.

I have to have some tea. Okay. And then for lunch, Jeffrey and I always have soup, which is so easy because I can make a lot of soup and leave it in the freezer. What'd you have today? I had italian wedding soup.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Mm hmm. Yummy. And then for dinner, we either go out to dinner with friends or we order dinner from a restaurant. I've been testing recipes all day. The last thing I want to do is make dinner.

Yeah, I hear that. And I don't like to have for dinner what I tested during the day unless it's totally done. And it's so good, I want Jeffrey to have it. Right. That's work.

Ina Garten

And this is dinner. Got it. And I don't want to eat something and go, I wish it had more rosemary in it. It's just not fun. Yeah, not fun.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

There we go with the fun again. I want to show you a picture for our listeners. I'm showing a picture of what I made for me and my husband this morning for breakfast. Let me see if you can see it. Oh, wait.

Shit. Oh, God. I don't know how to get that thing away. Oh, God. I'm trying to work my iPhone.

Okay, wait, can you see that? That's the poached eggs on toast. Oh, smashed eggs on toast. The smashed eggs with the grainy mustard. Isn't that great?

Yeah. Oh, how fabulous was that to get you in the mood for today? Yeah. And also, I was just looking. I was reviewing a bunch of your cookbooks, which, of course, I own, and I was just sort of.

Ina Garten

Oh, thank you. Wanted to get. Oh, yeah. Are you kidding me? I mean, I could not live without them.

Oh, Julia. I could not live without them. Thank you. How has your relationship changed to food as you've gotten older? You know, I mean, are there tastes that you have now that you didn't then or things I mean, back in the day or things you didn't like when you were younger that you love now?

I think my style hasn't changed at all. I think my. It might be my sophistication about things has changed, and I've learned about a few things. So, you know, I didn't know what truffle butter was. I didn't know what Sriracha was.

There are a few things in the 25 years I've been writing cookbooks that I've kind of acquired as part of the repertoire of things that I can use. But I think I still like roast chicken and roast carrots. I know you can't beat it, man. It's one thing I learned when I had, especially a food store, is that people eat differently at home than they do in a restaurant. They like really simple food.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Right. And that's true about me, too, actually. I like simple food in a restaurant, too, but people don't want fancy veal with morels at home, and so I think that hasn't changed. What has changed a little bit is my insistence on flavor, that if I go back to a recipe I wrote 20 years ago, it needs a little extra something. And I think it's always something like some acid, like lemon juice or red wine vinegar.

Ina Garten

Vinegar, yeah, or something salty, like parmesan cheese. Just that little thing at the end that needs to be added that kind of brings out the flavor. So I've gotten better at that. Better at identifying that. Right.

Yeah. Cause I think our taste buds change, you know, I mean, I think that they physically change. Don't ask me how or why that happens. Oh, maybe. But I didn't like cilantro when I started, and I still don't like cilantro now, so that'll never change.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Yeah. Now, listen, you and I are gonna have a huge argument about this because I love cilantro. You love it? I put on everything. Do you really?

Yeah, I do. I made chicken salad the other day, and I just throw tons of cilantro in it. Why don't you like cilantro, by the way? I think it's physiological. I think what you taste is not what I taste.

Ina Garten

I really. Oh, it may be. Oh, yeah. It's really physiological. It tastes like soap to me.

And if you put one. One leaf of cilantro on anything, that's all I taste. Oh, my God. That's incredible. And I like how things are layered.

You know, like a flavor bubbles up with chocolate and coffee and vanilla. They have to be layered the right way. And cilantro, once there's a leaf of cilantro, actually, if there's a cilantro at the next table, I can taste it. It's just so bad. Okay, so I know what not to get you for Christmas.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

A bunch of cilantro.

Sometimes I like to think, believe it or not, this sort of calms me down. In my mind, I think about what in my kitchen is a must have. You know, like, just basic things. I have, for example, I have a hand electric mixer that my mom gave me, and it says general electric on it. It's from, like, the.

Yeah, like the early seventies, I think. And that's a must have for me. Or a rubber spatula, you know, with a little tiny curve in it, you know, with the concave center. Are there things like that that you just tools in the kitchen that you just have a love affair with? I do have a spatula from when I got married.

Ina Garten

From before I got married, actually. Yeah, it was from caldors. I remembers caldors. I do. They had everything at caldors, right?

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Everything. And is it a spatula that still really works? Well? It works perfectly well, and I can't replace it. I can't find the same spatula.

Ina Garten

They're either huge spatulas or tiny spatulas, and this is just the right size spatula. I have one of those, too, but it's not from before I was married. But I've had it for probably 25 years, and I just. I love it. This is 55 years, and it's still good.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

I thought you were referring to your marriage. You said, this is 55 years. It's still good.

Ina Garten

Even better than a spatula. Yeah, exactly. So, moving out of the kitchen for a moment. You're a gardener. You have a beautiful garden at your house in the hamptons.

Thank you. I'm in Santa Barbara, California, and I planted garlic, which I've never planted before. I haven't either. And the garlic scapes that grow on the top, you can grill them. They're really great in the way.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Really? Yeah, yeah. And I did not know. You break apart your clove of garlic, and you take each individual clove and you plant it. Plant it?

Ina Garten

Yeah. It's already poked through the earth, and I just planted it, like, nine days ago, which is kind of amazing, you know? Isn't that great? Yeah. Yeah.

Does gardening teach you patience? I don't tend to be patient, but I like seeing something evolve in a garden. Yes, it teaches me. Certainly does teach me patience. But also it's a thrill, because you don't know.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

There's so much, you know, if you go away for a week and then you come back to look at your garden, things will have changed. And so it's kind. It always feels like a miracle to me. It does. And also, the structure of the plant is different from the flower itself.

Right. When the flower dies, the plant itself is beautiful. And then the seed pods are different from the flower, so it just keeps evolving. Yeah. It's just great.

Yeah. It's a reminder of life and the miracle of life, you know? And the circle. And the circle. Yeah.

It's just gorgeous. Until the bunnies come and eat my roses. They eat your roses? Yeah. Those little motherfuckers.

Ina Garten

But they're so adorable. They're so precious. But I do kind of turn into, like, farmer McGregor or Elmer Fudd.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

I have learned to hate them. And can you garden all year round because you're in Santa Barbara? Yeah. Oh, that's great. But believe it or not, yes, but we do have seasons, so certain things look great right now, and certain things are dormant.

Ina Garten

And you have rosemary hedges, which we couldn't even begin to have here. Right. I know. And every time my mother visits, she cuts. I mean, I have rosemary all over the place.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

It's like ground cover, and she just goes around cutting it. I feel it. It's like she's a crazy woman, and she puts it into a bag to take home to herself and to all her girlfriends. Like, they don't have rosemary in New York. I know, but it feels special, right.

Coming from this garden. We have to take a break now. My conversation with ina Garten continues in just a bit.

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Horrendous problem. I can't believe we haven't figured out a better way to deal with this shit. But guess what? Someone has figured it out. It's the company I was talking about earlier, Mil.

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Wiser anyhow, thanks for listening to me go on and on about what I think is the smartest possible solution to the dumbest possible problem. And now back to wiser than me. So you worked at the White House. Yeah. And you worked on nuclear policy, correct.

Ina Garten

Right. Yeah. And what struck me, first of all, that's extraordinary that this is your story in and of itself. But I was thinking about science and the overlap of science in cooking. Yeah, I'm totally aware of it.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Right. It's not an accident. Exactly. It's not an accident. I think that if you, if you enjoy science, cooking is really another kind of science.

Yeah. And I always think that if you work in science, you end up with nuclear energy or you end up with gibberellic acid or whatever, you know, whatever it is in cooking, you end up with a chocolate cake. So I'll take the chocolate cake any day. Yeah. So I think they are very related.

Ina Garten

And the way I test a recipe is absolutely scientific. I'll make a recipe once and I'll analyze what the result is, and then I'll change one or two things about it and then make it again. And then change one or two things about it. Make it again. And it's a very scientific process for me.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

And you're taking notes along the way, obviously, right? Yeah, I take notes along the way. And I start out, I think, the way you often do in science, with hypothesis, of what I want it to be. If I'm doing a chocolate cake, I want to know, I know what texture I'm looking for, what flavor I'm looking for, what range of flavor, what things I want to have bubble up. And if I don't know where I'm going, I'll never finish so I have to have something in my head where I'm going, and I keep testing it until I kind of hear that ping that says, that's what I'm looking for.

Do recipes come to you in your. I mean, like, do you conjure them in your head? Are you, like, improvising a recipe and then you write it down and you try it? How does that work? Ina?

Ina Garten

Not really. I will. I'll start with an idea of something that I might have seen in my travels, I might have seen at a restaurant, I might have read in a book, but then I'll read a lot of other people's views on that thing, whatever it is. Yeah. If I'm making, like, an italian soup, ribolita, I'll just read a lot about ribalita, and then I'll put all the books away and I'll start cooking.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Wow. So it's kind of what my idea of what Rivolita should be and how I can make it taste better. So you're an improviser as well? Yeah, to a certain extent. Exactly.

My husband's brother Jim is a scientist, a very respected scientist at UC Irvine. And I remember he was at our house once, and I was cooking. I love to bake. And I was baking, and somebody was in the kitchen with me, and they were measuring out the flour, but they were measuring it out but not leveling it off. Leveling it off, which I said, no, no, no, you must level it off.

And I was showing how to do it, actually, for all the ingredients, particularly for baking. And I remember looking at my brother in law, Jimmy, and he had such, what can I say? Respect and adoration in his face. Because he was a scientist, he was appreciating the attention to the detail. The detail, yeah, the detail.

Ina Garten

I follow recipes exactly, even my own. I measure everything. And then, because once you've spent the time to make sure it's absolutely perfect, why do you want to start throwing ingredients in there? Yeah. You want to be exactly right.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

That's right. Especially as a baker. Yeah, especially the baker. Right. Especially.

Talk about entertaining. I mean, did your family entertain growing up? My dad loved to have parties. Oh, he did? My mother hated it.

Ina Garten

Hated it. But it was my mother that had to give the parties, so it was always a struggle. It was always. I mean, she did parties because he liked his friends. But I think it was.

It was never a happy experience. And as soon as I got married, I was like, I remember being in our first house. It was a garden apartment in North Carolina. And I remember looking around going, I can do anything I want to do. Now, for the first time, I have nobody criticizing me, nobody telling me what to do.

I can do whatever I want. And I just wanted to have parties, so I just started teaching myself how to cook. It was then. It was then, literally, as soon as I got married. Did you like food before then?

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Were you a food lover, or did that really come? Not really, no. And I was never allowed to cook when I was a kid, really. So I really didn't. I don't think I ever connected with it.

Ina Garten

I didn't know that it was something that would be fun to do at all. Well, I mean, I think when I was a kid, I didn't even know I would do anything. So I thought, you know, I was kind of. Of the generation when I was in college, I thought, well, I'm going to college, and then I'll get married, and that's that. It was Jeffrey who's, like, who said to me, you need to figure out what to do with your life.

He said, unless you do something, you're not going to be happy. And I was like, whoa. Never even occurred to me. Wow, that's incredible. Isn't that amazing?

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Yes, it's amazing. And you were 20, right? I was 20, yeah. Hmm. I was 20.

Ina Garten

So that was really the beginning of trying to figure out what I wanted to do. Yeah, yeah. And I totally credit him with that. Yeah. And when you started to entertain at a young age, did you feel the same anxiety that your mom had, or you did, and you overcame it or you didn't have it?

I gave some pretty bad parties in the beginning. No way. Oh, seriously. I remember one party in North Carolina, I decided to invite everybody for brunch, which I hate, but, yeah, I invited everybody for brunch, and I thought, well, I'll make an omelette for everybody. Oh, no.

It was, like, 20 people. It was such a bad idea. And I don't, you know, now I know how to make an omelet. It's not easy. I don't know what the hell I made when I was 20, but I make.

I was in the kitchen the whole time, and, of course, you were, like, a year to get over that and. And give parties. I think my mother was anxiety. Had anxiety about the people as well as the food. I mean, today, I have to say, I'm not a comfortable cook.

I don't. If I'm giving a dinner party, I'm beside myself with anxiety that it's not going to come out right. Even after all this time. Even after all this time, are you the same way? I'm afraid so.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

I really.

Every time, if I'm having people over and I'm cooking about an hour before, I'm trying to come up with a way to cancel it. That's really great. I hadn't gone that far, but that's. No, I totally understand. I mean, I want out of this.

It's like, the table's pretty. That was fun. It was fun to set the table. Dessert I made earlier. I love to make dessert.

That's okay. But the meal. Oh, fucking forget it. It's just the worst. It's the worst.

Ina Garten

That's one of the things that I'm aware of when I'm writing a cookbook is how hard it is to give a dinner party. Yeah, it's hard. It's so much work. It's so difficult, and it's so much anxiety for. And unless you're.

I don't know. Unless you're a restaurant chef, it's so hard. That's why I want the recipes to be really easy. So you can just put the carrots on a sheet pan. Olive oil, salt and pepper.

Throw it in the oven and hope you remember to take them out. Yeah, exactly. There's a story in our family. My husband's grandmother, this was in the deep south, and it was during the depression, and she was having people over, and they. They were not well off.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

They were actually, you know, pretty strapped for cash back in the day, and it was a depression, and she had people over, and she was sitting at the table. Her name was Narcisse, and her daughter Charlotte brought in the roast, and all of a sudden, Charlotte tripped, and the roast fell onto the ground. And Narcisse, Brad's grandmother, without missing a beat, she goes, that's all right, Charlotte. Just pick that up and take it back and get the other one. There was no other one.

Ina Garten

It was this one washed off. Yeah, that's really. That was a really good catch. Yeah. Yeah, she was.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

That was a really good improvised moment. Really good improvised moment. God. And you like cook. You prefer cooking alone, though, right?

That's what I heard you say. You prefer to be by yourself cooking. I mean, considering that I do this professionally, I can't cook and talk at the same time. Yeah. I mean, I do it on tv, and that's okay.

Ina Garten

But if I know it has to come out perfectly. I mean, Jeffrey's always hanging out and talking to me. I'm like, jeffrey, I can't talk. I just have to because I'll forget to do something. And especially if I really know the rest of my life.

If it's something I make a lot, I'll always forget an ingredient. If I'm not focusing on it. It's like my attention span isn't that good, so I have to really concentrate to get it right. Do you feel like you have to do that, too? Yes.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

I mean, I do. I have a brother in law, Patrick, with whom I can cook because we can stand by each other and not talk. But honestly, I get bothered when people are around me talking or even offering to help. I'm like, I killed it. Don't offer to help.

Ina Garten

Just get out of my way. And it's really inhospitable to say, don't touch it. Get out of here. Go enjoy your cocktail. I'll be there in a minute anyway.

It's fine. You know what? At the end of the day, the only thing that's really important is to have time with your friends completely. I keep trying to remind myself, don't get obsessed about whether something's absolutely exactly the way you want it to be, as long as everybody's having a good time. And if they feel like we are anxious about it, it's gonna.

It'll bomb. It's gonna ruin the evening. Yeah, it's gonna ruin the evening. So we gotta get our shit together. That's what you're saying?

So, no, on top of being anxious about the meal, we have to look like we're not anxious, which makes you more anxious, right? Of course.

But that'll be our little secret. That's our secret. You never heard it from me. Never heard it. Don't go anywhere.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

More wisdom from Ina Garten after this quick break.

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You're known for your look, your signature style with the button up shirts and with your beautiful scarves. Thank you. How would you characterize that style? Comfortable. Yeah.

Ina Garten

Everything goes in the washing machine. It does, yeah. I just. I love these shirts. I got a shirt from Talbot's that I just loved, and I asked if they could make it for me in different fabrics, and they said sure.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Wow. And so I have them in corduroy for the winter, and I have them in denim Chambray for the summer, and I know I can put it on and feel comfortable and feel like it looks put together. It does. It does. Oh, good.

Yeah, it does. Yes. I have to say, it's funny because I went back and I started watching the first season of barefoot Contagion. Oh, did you really? Yes.

Ina Garten

Oh, my God. And what I so admire about you in your approach and also your look is that it's classic and it's worked. It's worked from the get go and you stuck to it. You didn't try to futz with it, in my view, anyway. And that speaks to a lot of confidence, I think, in you.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

You have confidence in yourself. Thank you. Do you agree with that? I mean, I wouldn't say I'm confident about everything, but I think professionally, I feel very confident that I know what I want, and anything less than that is not okay with me. And I've really pushed through a lot of times where a publisher or a tv producer will disagree with me, and I'm just like, no, this is the way I'm going to do it.

Ina Garten

And I feel that way about my clothes, too. Like, I'm sure that they would like me to change my outfit all the time. I just not. That's not who I am. And where does that, where does that come from, Ina?

I don't know. I really don't. Because when I was a kid, I was always criticized for everything. So I think it was just internal. I just have this sense of who I am, and that's who I am, and I'm perfectly comfortable with it.

And if you don't like it. That's okay. It's not your problem. It's the tv. Right?

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Exactly. Right. Maybe it was like a really healthy defense. Maybe it was, you know. Yeah.

Ina Garten

We never know whether it's in the DNA or whether it's developed. But I love to listen to everybody's opinion and then choose what I want to do. And once I've made that decision, I'm good to go. Are you the same way? Yeah, I think I am.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

And I have my group of people that I go to for their take on things. Oh, I totally do. Yeah. But when I'm sure about something or I haven't, I would say that my instincts are usually pretty right. And the mistakes I've made in my life have been not following those instincts sometimes, you know.

Ina Garten

Isn't that interesting? Yeah, well, I mean, whatever you're doing, keep doing it because you're totally beloved. Oh, God, that's so. Whatever you do. Thank you so much.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Thank you so much. And I think, well, having a healthy marriage helps. Right. It does. You know, it's funny, I was just telling somebody recently, people think that being in a marriage is confining in some way.

Ina Garten

But I find it's just the opposite. It's like a big anchor, like a stake in the middle of my life. And it actually gives me more freedom because I know I will always come back to that stake, to that. It's solid, it's supportive, it's positive. Absolutely.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Brad and I have been married, oh, my God, 36 years now. And, you know, I couldn't. Jesus, I could never have done any of this without him in my life. Well, that's what I feel too. Yeah.

Yeah. And has your marriage changed over the many decades you've been married? Well, I think it's different now. When we lived in Washington, it was much more traditional. I mean, it was the seventies.

Ina Garten

And he worked in the state department. He worked for Kissinger and secretary of state Vance. And I worked in OMB. You know, it was always expected that I was going to cook dinner. It was.

They were. They were kind of roles that we played. Yes. And I increasingly disliked those roles. And so I think my move to buy, especially food store and have my own business was really breaking out of those roles.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

I see. So there was a little bit of a time where we had to figure that out. But he just. He's so intuitive and so respectful of me and so encouraging me to do what I want to do. That it wasn't a terrible, you know, we worked thing it out right.

Ina Garten

And I think he's freer, and I'm freer. So it's. It's now. It became more of a partnership rather than, like, traditional roles. Yes.

There was a time in our life where he was offered to live in Tokyo for a year, and I had just signed a lease for a store in East Hampton. And we were like, what are we gonna do? And he said, you know what? Let's both do what we want to do, because we can't choose. If we get to do what I want to do, you'll resent it.

And if I don't get to do that and I have to stay in East Hampton, then I'll resent it. So let's just do it. Let's do it for a while and see if anybody's unhappy. We'll make a change. And it worked out fine.

Actually, after a year, I wrote to him and I said, you know, I think you need to come home, because it's not that I'm miserable. I'm just fine. And I think it's a bad idea. So we worked it out. Yeah.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

So you got married pretty young, which was typical back then, but it was not typical. And really, I think it was a very bold move as a woman, and particularly as a working woman in the seventies, to make the decision to not have kids. No, it wasn't in a struggle at all. I had no interest in having children. None of.

Ina Garten

I just them. I had a terrible childhood, and it was nothing I wanted to recreate. I think now, looking back, I might say I see my friends with their children, and I understand what it could be. Yes. But when I was 20, I didn't want to have anything to do with it.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

And Jeffrey felt the same way. I think Jeffrey would have been a great parent. He would have really loved having children. But he wanted me to be happy. And it was okay with him nowadays.

To opt not to have kids. It feels more sort of almost normal. But back then, I would think. But then it wasn't. Then it wasn't.

And there you are, being sure of yourself. So, yeah, I don't know where that came from. I really don't. But I just. I don't know where that certainty came from.

Ina Garten

But I was really sure of that. But it's the same certainty that you were referring to earlier. I think maybe because when I was a kid, I didn't have any choices. Somebody else made all my choices. Yeah.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Right. So once I had the power, I really used it. Maybe. I mean, that's kind of what you said. Which I hadn't thought about.

Ina Garten

It's probably very true. Good for you. I love that. You know, one of the things that's happened to me over the past years, a few years I've been working on a memoir. I know you do.

And what was interesting to me is the threads through. I never look back, the threads that are so consistent. And one of the things is taking risks. And what you're saying is really true is how sure I was along the way of what I wanted at each kind of intersection. It gave me a very different view of myself than I had, which was surprising.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

What was that characterized that? It gave me more confidence about who I am. I was very surprised. The consistency of things through my life. And I actually didn't realize it until I started writing.

Ina Garten

And it made me feel good. I'm so looking forward to reading it. Oh, thank you. Thank you. I mean, there were things I did in my twenties, and I look back and I think, my God, I was like jumping off a cliff.

And I had no idea what was going to happen, but I just kept doing it over and over again. And anyway, so that was surprising that I started doing it so early. Yeah, right. So you've kind of been this person for a long time, right? Yeah.

Really? But wait a minute. Do you ever, do you ever, like, do you get mad? Do you lose your temper? What pisses you off?

What pisses me off? Passive aggressive people. Number one on my list. People who tell you something so that you don't have the opportunity to change it, people that lie to you, basically, so that you do what they want you to do. That really makes me mad.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Excise all those people from your life. That's my, yeah, right, exactly. Yes, exactly. I think it's one of the things that you get to do when you're older is that when you're young, you think your relationships are going to go on forever. And as you get older, you realize sometimes they don't.

Ina Garten

Sometimes you have to choose your own happiness. And as you said, excise people that are hurting you. Have you had to do that a lot? Not a lot, but I've had to do it. And it was painful.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Uh huh. Because, you know, I just, I hate hurting people. But if it's a relationship that is damaging, at some point, you know, you try and fix it. You try and fix it again. You try and fix it again.

Ina Garten

Sometimes you just can't. Mm hmm. And so you have to move on. Yes. That's the benefit of getting older, really.

Yeah, it is. It's a huge benefit. You just have to say, this isn't working right. This is making me unhappy, and I don't deserve to be unhappy, so get. The fuck out of my house.

Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. What draws you to other people? I think I like positive energy.

I like people who are doing interesting things that are. That really show up. They don't come and expect to be entertained. Yeah. Do people do that with you?

Do they try and tell you things that are funny to make you laugh? They assume I'm gonna be funny, and I'm not a big. It's not like I'm a big joke teller. Yeah. And sometimes I'm very quiet because I'm just.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Cause sometimes I am. I'm just watching the listening. You're observing. Observing. And I think.

And then sometimes people think I'm being funny when I'm not trying to be funny. Do you know what I mean? You sort of do, yeah. Yeah. Because they expect it.

They expect it. So a certain gesture or whatever. I didn't mean that to be funny, but I'll take the laugh also, because. You play very humorous characters, and you play them so brilliantly, they forget that it's a character you're playing. It's not necessarily Julia.

Oh, my God. Yes. And they also, I think, particularly with television. Well, now everything is. I mean, who knows?

With computer, I should say. I mean, everybody's watching it on all these other devices. But, you know, you're in their home. Yeah. I mean, you have that same experience with your show, no doubt.

Ina Garten

Yeah. You're in their home. So you. They feel relaxed with your presence, and. They feel like you're a friend.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Correct. Which can be lovely. There is a downside to it, though.

I was, one time, I was. When I was giving birth to my first son. And this is kind of a gross story, but we can cut it out if it's too repulsive. And I was. I was giving birth, and I.

And they. You know, when. When you're in labor, they put that monitor around your tummy. Yeah. And I was in the bathroom, and I was naked, and I had the thing around my tummy.

I was. And I was massive, by the way, and I gained, like, you know, 50 pounds when I was pregnant. And I was standing there and my water broke. And all of a sudden, a nurse came into the room, and I went, my water broke. I'm okay.

Reminding you. Naked. And she goes, Elaine. Oh, my God.

It was so awful.

Ina Garten

Elaine. Elaine. Is that crazy? I know. It's crazy.

I know. How do you make friends as you get older, is that an easy thing to do for you? What is the key to meeting new people? I guess you probably do in your line of work. Do you?

You know, I think one of the things as we get older, Jeffrey and I are very conscious of we're going to lose friends and they're going to move to Florida or Tuscany or wherever they move. And it's important to stay connected to people. So we actually make an effort to meet new people just to make sure that we have a group of friends that we really care about. Do you travel with friends? Yeah, we do.

We actually spend a lot of time in Paris, so people come to Paris with us, which is just heaven. Oh, nice. Yeah. So maybe one of these days you and I should go to Paris together. We'd have a good time.

Go to the markets and get chicken and carrots and cook in my Paris kitchen. Exactly. That would be very good. That would be really fun. Do you speak French badly enough so I can converse with the grocer and the butcher?

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Yeah. Yeah, I can get around. That's good. I wouldn't want to address the UN. Right, exactly.

I had the opportunity to meet President Macron last year. It was at a thing at the White House. Did you? Yeah. Because my grandfather was French and flew for the Free French during the.

Ina Garten

The war. He was a part of the resistance. Yeah. And so I went over to Macron. I said something, do you speak French?

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Well, like you? Badly enough so that the first sentence or two sounds like I know what I'm talking about. And the problem with that, of course, is that then they assume you have. To understand the answer. Yeah.

So Macron starts going.

And I have no idea what that guy said to me, but I just kept shaking my head.

So anyway. Anyway.

Ina Garten

I know that feeling. Yeah. You don't want to start it because you don't know what's coming back. Totally, completely. Oh my God.

My French has gotten to me. A lot of trouble along the way, actually. Like when we first had this apartment, I went to the hairdresser and she said in French, which I understood, would you like it straight or curly? And I thought, oh, what the hell, it's Paris. Let's make it curly.

So she gave me this curly hairdo. And I wanted to say to her, when my husband sees me, he's going to say, kiss me quick before my wife gets here. So I said, moi vite en avance que ma femme rive. And she looked at me in horror, absolute horror. And I had no idea what I had said.

So that night I went out with some friends who speak perfect French. And I told them what I said. And he started to laugh, and he said, and Bess is a kiss. But Besse is something else entirely. And what you said was, my husband's going to say, fuck me quick before my wife gets here.

I never went back to that hairdresser.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

So she thought you were a brassy dame. I like it. I mean, actually, it's sort of a bad. It's almost a better expression. Fuck me quick before I get to.

That's great. And I love it. I'm going to remember that. So bad French can get you in trouble. Yeah, I guess so.

Right. That's really. That's really good. We have this thing at the end. I ask you a bunch of, like, quick questions, and you can choose to answer them or not, whatever you feel like doing.

Ina Garten

Okay, I'm ready. Yeah, you're ready. Something you go back and tell yourself at 21. Don't worry about you. I'm going to go off a cliff.

It'll be fine. Yeah. It's the only way you'll get anywhere. Keep jumping, keep jumping, keep jumping. Is there something you go back and say yes to?

No. I think I've done everything I wanted to do. You said all the yeses that needed to be said. Yeah, I think so. This is good.

Ina can't think of anything. I said no to that. I wish I'd said yes to no. Is there something you want to tell me about aging? I mean, not that we're that far apart in age, but is there something you would.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Is there some little tidbit that you could tell me about aging? Go for a walk twice a week. It'd be good for you. Good. I like that.

Ina Garten

I think small changes over long period of time makes a difference. What do you mean, small changes? You don't have to run a marathon. I think if you just take a walk twice a week, you'll be better off. Yeah, right.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

What are you looking forward to? Going to Paris? Actually, Jeffrey and I decided what are we waiting for? And we book two trips that we've never done before. Which ones?

Ina Garten

We're going to the Arctic and we're going to go. I've gone on a safari, but not gone out into the, you know, with the animals. So we booked a safari. So that's going to be fun. That'll be amazing.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

That's a life changer. I've been. I've done that and it's. What did you see? Kind of everything.

Ina Garten

Everything. Wow. Yeah. And I do remember, though, at the time, speaking of having kids, we went when our kids were younger, I want to say they were, like, maybe eight and 13. And we went.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

And our first night there, and we're out in the plains there, and we were actually in tents, and our leader guy was saying, okay, now, a couple of rules around camp. There is no running. Nobody can run. And I thought to myself, oh, my God, what have we done? I have two rambunctious boys, and I have to now for the next two weeks, they've got to sit the hell down.

I thought, they're prey. These kids are prey. Oh, yeah. The whole time, I was in a panic. I mean, I had a good time, but it was still.

I was, like, on the edge of my seat the whole time. Well, this has been such a treat. To talk with you, and for me, too. Thank you so much, Julia. I'm such an admirer of yours and.

Ina Garten

An eye of yours. Thank you. Wonderful. I hope to see you soon. Me, too.

Thanks. Thank you. Okay, time to get my mom on this Zoom call. I gotta tell her about this conversation.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Hi, Mama. Hi, sweet. I just spoke with Ina Garten. What a huge treat and a treasure to have time with her. I know, I know.

Judith Bowles

Why is she called the barefoot Contessa? Because she worked in the White House and she was writing nuclear policy during the Carter administration. And her husband, Jeffrey was also, I believe, in government. And anyway, at a certain point, she became uninterested in that work, and she needed something to do. And Jeffrey said, you need to find something to do that's fun.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

And so she found this store in the Hamptons, a food specialty store called the Barefoot Contessa. And it was for sale. And she bought it. She bought it. Oh, my God.

I thought. Because it's such a great name. I know. And you always think, oh, my God, this woman is. You know, she said she's a countess, but on the other hand, she doesn't.

Judith Bowles

I mean, she's not at all like a royal, you know, she. No, not at all. Except she has. There is something about her that's quite, I think, rarefied in terms of her approach to food and making it accessible for everybody. That is unusual, what she's done.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

But something I found really interesting, mommy, is that she got married when she was 20. She's been married for 55 years. And she made a decision when she got married that she was not going to have kids. And this was based on the fact that she had a very difficult childhood. She did not have a lot of joy as a child.

She didnt have much agency, and she couldnt really make decisions for herself. And so she made the choice not to have kids, which really strikes me as something to remark on, because nowadays, to make that decision is one thing, but to make that decision in the late sixties, early seventies is extraordinary. Right? Yeah. I mean, like, for you, mom, in the period of time when you were having kids, did it ever occur to you not to have kids?

Judith Bowles

Never. Never. It's almost like, did the sun come up? You had kids. I mean, it was just like that.

I mean, it never occurred to me. But I remember one couple that we knew who didn't have children and what they did, they got into rose gardening, and so they, they spent a tremendous amount of time on the rose garden and studying roses and all kinds of things. So they plowed themselves into the world in a certain way. And I always thought to myself, that's their compensation. And actually, when you girls all left home, that's when I started really gardening with a passion.

And I was thinking that there's something maternal in the nurturing, in the nature that is a compensation for having children to take care of. But for her, she found a way to be a mother through food and through nurturing the world. And that's a great gift. Right? Right.

Ina Garten

Yeah. Yeah. It's exciting to know where she's came from and how she's taken what was a hardship and turned it into an enormous strength. Hey, speaking of recipes, there's one food that ina Garten hates, and it's cilantro. Some people hate cilantro.

Judith Bowles

I would say, like, 12% of America hates cilantro. Explain that to me. You explain to me where you got that statistic from. Well, I made it up, but what I'm saying about it is that you have to check with people about cilantro because some people hate it. Yeah, that's right.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

And she says that if there's even a tiny leaf, it really, really bothers her. And I personally cannot get enough cilantro. Same, same for me. But people absolutely say I can't eat it. When we have ina and Jeffrey over, we won't be making things with cilantro.

Judith Bowles

We will pretend it doesn't exist. Oh, well, wait a minute. Actually, we just looked this up, and there's actually a genetic reason that some people think cilantro tastes like soap. These particular people have a variation in a group of, we just looked this up. Olfactory receptor genes that allows them to strongly perceive the soapy flavored aldehydes in cilantro leaves.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

So Ina must have that gene. And it turns out, mom, that it's present in about four to 14% of the US population. So your made up bullshit statistic was spot on.

Judith Bowles

Okay, where did I come up with 12%? That's hysterical. I don't know. You pulled that out of your ass and you were right.

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Okay. Okay. Love you, honey. Love you, mommy. I'll see you tomorrow, okay?

Oh, yeah, exactly. Travel safely. Goodbye. Love you.

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